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writes:I was having a very terrible time with my husband and I am a student in the university. One evening my husband abused me a lot and I decided to quit the relationship that day.(though the relationship was worst for last 5 years). While I was sitting in the lobby, I saw a guys eyes staring on me, I just got lost into his eyes, I was very upset but felt very peaceful. I went inside and the other day, I looked back and smiled and he winked at me. we smiled couple of times more and then kept checking me out. We did not talk with each other. I fell for that guy so much that I decided to ask him myself. Since that day was the last day of the class, I did not want to loose him but just waited for him to start the conversation.He started conversation with me and I handed the note to him asking about his opinion. He seemed a nice guy and then he said that he is married. I said I am also married.We went outside the class and he loaded me with lots of compliments and I felt the attraction in his eyes.But I said I am sorry if you are married. We left and I asked for his email address and he gave it to me.I did not give him my e mail address. Since I was under trauma his looks gave me a divine peace, got so schizophrenic about him and wrote a big email telling him about my feelings, nothing passionate but just love feelings. But I know he was married. When I tried to email him, I could not find his email address. But I always felt that if love is so strong he will come to me myself. And one day I saw his email in my email box. He managed to get my email from somewhere. I felt that he is expecting something more out of me, so I sent him the email that I wrote to him. He asked me that we have to talk in person and he asked me where I have my thursday class. I told him the course is in other city. He read my email many a times and then said that he is married and does not want to take the risk for his family as of now. He told me to wait and he will not meet me on thursday. I thought If he has something for me, he can come to other city to meet me.When I went to other city to take the class in the evening, I was surprised to see him there in class. He got that course added. He texed me that he is sorry that he doubted me.He kept staring at me most of the times and felt quite upset. When the class ended, I just moved out of the class without talking to him.In the night I got an e mail from him, a very decent email of proposal from him. He complimented me a lot and wanted to sleep with me.I was thoughtless but I felt that he came after me, so It should be ok. I send him the e mail and said ok.We chatted each other day, he was asking me many questions and I was replying, I told him to take your time, he always said that there is no commitment yet, I said fine.We chatted the whole day and he was asking me about my family and kids etc etc. He seemed happy. Suddenly in the evening I got an email full of abuses for me. He said that he was just testing me and I have failed his test. Since I am on student Visa and all my feelings for him is to trap him for a permanent citizenship. He told me that for last two days, he had been doing the homework about me.I was numb at that point. Few minutes before, I left him perfectly OK and suddenly that happened...He told me that they will talk in class as students and I told him that I do not want to talk with him at all. Then he hacked my e mail address and he blocked the email accounts. He was reacting in a way as if i have ruined his life. I told him that we have not even met yet, then why such comments.The guy is very good looking and young but married to a women who is 20 years older than him. I am also considered very smart, attractive and intelligent.Is there any stereotype of international women students for American Men? We have not yet met in class again.I was wondering If he had that kind of feeling then he should have not proposed me. He should have refused politely. Why he has to use the abusive words? He was very tense and upset.Any thoughts...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): Continue living! Pursue your professional and social goals and don't leave much space for boredom in your life.
This is not the right time to "relax." You will have plenty of time to relax once you are over your him and perhaps once you met someone new....
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): Stop thinking that your him as a nice person. No matter how special he was, your next love will be also special in its own, unique way - this is just the reality of how love works. So keep moving ON.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): The guy is Hispanic American and Iam from India.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): You need to move ahead. You are smart and intelligent, so will get better guys than him.
Have yours self respect, dont beg him. that relationship will never work
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2010): Honney,
Looke like you have been unlucky with guys. But need to move on. This one too is not worth you.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 sorry to ask - but where are you from? And where is this man from? He sounds very strange, and you sound very vulnerable. I am worried for you : (
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