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writes: Hello, I recently posted a question but I am still confused. My boyfriend left me about 7 weeks ago now. He hasn't given any explanation but I'm sure there is no one else involved.His uncle died 2 years ago, a month later his dad died, 6 months later we found out my dad had terminal cancer ( whom he was very close to), 6 months later his sister miscarried at 7 months, then in October my dad died. We had our engagement party in December and things seemed to be getting back to normal a bit. Then his friend died, he went to the funeral and on the same day split up with me. I think he is depressed but don't know how to help him. He said he just wants to move on, but he keeps coming round and phoning me. When he does come round he always asks me if I have met anyone else or if I am going out with any blokes. He always asks where I am going, who with etc.. To me these are not the actions of someone who wants to move on, are they?We had been together for 5 years and I really don't want to lose him. We were great together, only ever argued about silly things, no major problems, and apart from all our losses we were generally happy. What I don't understand is how he can ask me to marry him back in September and now we are not together at all.He never talks about his feelings. My fear is that because he has always been the more shy out of us, he would not make the first move to come back and work things out.What should I do? I am currently buying him out of our house, and I am trying to move on, but I know that we are meant for each other. Everyone I know thinks we were a great couple.I'm so confused. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2005): I think at the moment what he really needs is a friend, not a lover. People react in different ways to losing someone close to them. Your boyfriend seems to have had a really hard time. Losing so many people in a short amount of time means that he hasn't really had time to grieve for any of his family or your father. I think his friend's death may have been the final straw and he's just coping in his own way. What you need to do is be there for him support him and help him at his time of need. He needs a friend and you should be there for him. Remember, when he has had time to grieve he may change his mind, but don't push him. Just stick by him and do everything in your power to help him.
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