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writes:Why do I get so irritable and shout at my parents?My life has really taken a turn for the worse. I was made redundant and running short of cash, I lost my boyfriend to another woman which I've never really got over and I have been diagnosed with Anxiety disorder.The only people who really care for me are my parents - but sometimes I get so irritated by them as they are constantly telling what I should be doing and not doing etc.I don't even live with them anymore and haven't done for years, as I am in my 40s, but still feel like I am under their control.I know I am taking my anger and frustration out on them as I have no one else to shout at and I hate it and my life! My friends wouldn't believe me if they saw me like this - as I'm the total opposite in public.My life is such a mess. How do I stop this behaviour? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (26 September 2015):
 Anxiety is a horrible thing to live with, I grant you that, but like any other illness there is help out there and it's your responsibility to seek it. Behaviour therapy, counselling,life coach or even just your GP perhaps. No one let alone your elderly parents deserve to be treated in that manner. Could it be the reason you choose your parents is because they are an easy and forgiving target, which makes you a bully whether you like it or not. You have stated they care for you so I would assume by that, telling you what you should and shouldn't be doing is with good intention. Telling, I would agree is frustrating as apposed to a more softer supportive approach as suggesting but not all people are equipped with choosing the right words. Sometimes you just have to read between the lines. if it is patronising or condescending then thats not on either. There is a big difference between speaking up and lashing out. With the exception of a fortunate few, we all hit hard times at some point. What makes the difference, i think, is mindset. Being fixed in your mindset is you being a rat on a wheel for the next part of your life. Thats why I love this quote:God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/r/reinholdni100884.html#LwxxsQBFP3eTI0uv.99 You have the choice to see if your glass ishalf full or half empty.
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