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writes: This may sound a bit silly but over the past 5-6 months I have regularly been dreaming that I'm cheating on my boyfriend and in the dreams I am fully aware of the fact that I have a boyfriend but I simply don't care. These dreams actually started after our relationship showed some problems and things were maybe going a bit downhill. Does anyone think that it's a bit of a sign - not that I'm going to go out and cheat beacuse I'm not that sort of person - but more of a sign that I should be single and out there meeting new people? Part of me feels that would be good for me as I'm still young and not 100% sure if my partner is the one but at the same time I am in love with him still and I worry that maybe there isn't anyone else out there for me and taking blind faith and just going for it would be a mistake. I guess no one can ever be sure if they have totally found the right person for them, but is this my sub-consious telling me something or am I taking it all a bit far? Reply to this Question
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reader, Topps +, writes (15 November 2005):
Some people think our dreams tell us all we need to know about ourselves, they also say that we need to interpret our dreams as they are not literal interptetaions of our thoughts...'They' say alot, dont they? Who knows with dreams. What is important here is that you are wondering about your relationship for more reasons than just because you are having dreams about cheating. Love is a strange thing, but love is not all you need to make it work. It needs to feel right, he needs to puch all your buttons, do you daydream about your future together, imagining growing old together or does the thought scare, bore, apall you. Or is your view just 'blackness' (you cant see anything). You need to think about this relationship. Better to be on your own, than with the worng person. And lets face it you will never meet Mr Right if you are 'in bed' with Mr Wrong
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reader, emz_xxxx +, writes (15 November 2005):
 I don't think you are taking it a bit far at all. I had the same problem just a few months back. At first I thought I was going mental but then I realised that it's just a dream. And that's all it should stay as. The only reason we have dreams is because our heads are sorting out problems while we sleep.
You said that you started getting these dreams soon after your relationsip was having problems and was starting to go downhill. Don't worry, your dreams are just trying to show you that you need to sort out these problems because if you don't then you could end up cheating on him. It was exactly the same for me. But I didn't take the chance to risk my relationship, so I sorted my problems out, and I communicated with my boyfriend. Now everything is back to the way it should be.
Your dreams could be a sign of something else but if you say you're in love with him and you believe that you do, then go for it. Maybe in time you will know for sure he's the right one. Maybe in time you'll know that maybe he isn't. But for now you do what your heart believes in. You don't always have to follow your dreams...
Good Luck... Emz xxxx
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