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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Im going to try keep this simple.Im in love with my ex. He is perfect for me in so many ways and I want him back.He broke up with me because he has depression right now, he says love is way to exhausting and requires attention and he has none to give therefore he does not want love right now, girls is just a huge no for him at this moment.He got his first doctors appointment yesterday and is going to be recieving councelling (not sure when his first session is but nontheless he will be getting some)Right now im his friend and I cant do it. How do I cope with this situation?? He has no feelings for me in the slightest anymore yet im in love with him. I will say we are in a LDR have been for 4 years now and in real we get along great, his whole family love me mines love him...we look good together, we can be with each other 24/7 for 3 weeks and its still not enough and yeah phsyically its amazing. Online not so much but we get by. Im used to talkin to him online everyday and being all cute and cosy but he doesnt give me anything (as im his friend, no feelings for me) and whenever i do something out of habit hes all look were friends get it into ur head already. Hes being quite mean on occassion but im giving him the benefit of the doubt right now because of his depression but im lost. One minute im ok, the next im angry, then im crying, then im happy and thinking of times with him, then im hopeful he will come back once hes better, then i cry again thinking what if he finds someone else or just simply decides to mess around with girls having meaningless sex or making out etc. Im a bit of a wreck and I need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): I think you need to give him some space instead of bomarding him and smothering him with love. I would feel suffocated, if someone was doing this to me. The closer, you try to get to him, the more he's going to keep pulling away from you because men work like that.
If you genuinely love and care about him, then you will want what's best for him and for him to be happy, whether that be with or with or without you. If you think, being how you are, is showing him, how much you love and care about him then your way off the mark!
well, even if, he does, or doesn't want you back, then that's nobodys decision but his own. He owes you nothing, so you should souly focus on ur own life. He may or may not come back, but your only wasting time and energy waiting around for something that may not happen. What's meant to be will be, and you may not be able to imagine life with out him, but god might have other plans that suite you even better and you might look back with gratitude.
All the best any! Rember this, that men respond to distance, not words
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