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writes:How do I break away from this married man, that I have had a baby with and commited myself to for the past two year? I have never had such a sad issue in my life, how can i leave him.. for good when I am so addicted to him? I feel powerless when it comes to this man!!
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reader, jane-marie  +, writes (21 July 2010):
hello am in the same kinda relationship. its v hard coping and dealing with a married man plus having his child.more so when u have strong feelings for them and u have had a baby girl of his. its v stressful depressing but i dont no there is just sumthing out there that makes u still want them. and u feel as if u cant let go. u feel for them. u want them to b with even though they cannot spend much time with u . they love their child but am unable to do nothing to support them. how can u let go. its as if u depend on them for company and just being a soul mate at times. there will b anger within rising at times. even when ur happy with them. there is always sumthing missing. its not a complete relationship knowing their married. they have so many ties every thing is to suit them. if ur strong enuff then u will end it. u need more than they can offer and give. u need a more wholesome relationship a more complete love. not just when every thing suits them r wether their in the mood to see u r not. take control. dont let them control ur life.
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reader, algardenmom +, writes (30 November 2008):
I turned off my phones and stopped calling my son's father. I got plenty of comfort food and pulled out my favorite romance novels. I immersed myself in projects. I put up every keepsake and drove a different way to work. It is not easy. I am still very much in love with my son's father. I think of him every day and see his face, his smile on my baby. It has been ten months since I have seen him, and it is still hard not to want to talk to him. He is an obsession for me, but not one I let get the best of me even though I have to work at it every day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): Ladies, I had my son in September 2008 by a married man. We were together a little over a year. My son is a blessing. But, the relationship with a married man is not healthy. My ex constantly told me he was leaving his wife once their house went into foreclosure, he had an attorney to handle his case, he had moved out, he loved me and our unborn son. So so many lies. During my 8th month of pregnancy, he disappeared and hasn't been seen since. He calls and claims he moved away, yet his money orders come to my home in an envelope stamped with a local zip code. Also, the place where he purchases the money orders comes from a local zip code. Truth is, he is still with his wife, attending church with his family, taking family vacations, and etc. He had any man's dream, a wife at home and a dedicated girlfriend. The question I had to ask myself and the question you need to ask yourself is why would you settle for a man who is not available? Why would you be willing to share your significant other? I have learned alot from my experience. I know for a fact that people will lie to you to get what they want. I know that God's definition of love is not the love that I experienced. Love doesn't hurt or envy. It is dangerous to expose and give the most delicate part of yourself to someone who does not appreciate you enough to be committed to you only. It is even more disturbing to know that the father of your child will spend money on his car or elsewhere versus purchasing essentials for your child (my experience). I urge you to cut off the relationship and focus on yourself. Surround yourself with a great support group. Get in a bible based church. I know it hurts (emotionally, mentally, and physically). But your addiction to a married man could be detrimental to your spirit, self image, and self esteem.Not to mention the situation you are bringing a child into. It's going to be hard. But once you focus on yourself and get back to dating without sex, you will find happiness and joy. And ladies, there are plenty of excellent, single, honest men out there! Stay blessed.
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (29 October 2008):
 I just have to ask what does he say about the baby? has he changed since you have a baby by him?
I'm in the same situation im not sure if im pregnant or not (ive missed my 10/08)period) but im curious about your guys reaction to that.
i really don't have any good advice because everything ive done hasn't worked for me, such as tell him that we need to stop what we're doing, stop calling and receiveing his calls for 3 days, tell him im seeing other people, etc.
nothing seems to make him want to leave me alone.
i even told him to ignore my phone calls, if i call him, he refused to do any of the above. i don't know why these kind of things happen. i love this man like ive never loved anyone before. but why would we want someone that is with someone else??...it sounds crazy but it happens regularly...obviously...
don't feel as though your odd or anything...you can try what i've tried and see if it works...if not tell me what you come up with so i can try it...
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 What in particular has made you feel that you need to make the break now? Is this a joint decision? Does he realise that you need to make the break? What discussions have you had about the future
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