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writes:hey. its been a year now and ive been talking to this turkey boy on msn for a while now and at first he wasnt sure of english. But now he know's alot of it. i am only 17 years old. and we talk on the phone about little things although he needs more time to learn more. But theirs this feeling inside of me with him even though i have not met him yet and i think i love him he says he loves me too and wants to meet mebut he cannot come to australia because you have to pay alot these days because of terriost and things.but i think im inlove with him and i did question myself this and i would ask myself would i give him the world and my answer was yes i would i would sacrifice my whole life and move their and live with him and sacrifice all my dreams everything ive wanted to do in my life. i would let go off just for him. I dont no what to do since my dad is angry that i even said if we could goto turkey for a holiday. and it makes me cry when i think ill never hold him in my arms. when its that i really want? should i let go follow my dreams? or do what i really want and be with him? i am so confused please help me!! xoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!
same happend with me and im now married and living in marmaris with my child :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007): hey!!! i ran across your question and i just wanted to tell you that i think you should follow your heart. I met a guy in MSN who lives in Spain and we have the same thing going etc. I'm 17 too by the way. What is going on between me and the guy i like is that he is in college(23)and he is going to try and come out to visit me either this next september or summer(hoping september)...and if i still feel that it is meant to be...then i will go to spain as an exchange student...
now for your info...the first "human" doesnt know exactly what he is talking about when he goes on to that whole "it's so hard to adjust blah blah blah..."
listen, i was an exchange student for 6 months in Chile when i was 16! I did fine!!! It is not only fun to experience other cultures, but also, with your love, it will be a lot easier for you(he has friends to introduce you to, places to show you, etc). Personally, I don't suggest throughing away too much, but rather trying to compromise in such a manner that you still fit him into your life. Once you two meet in person, then you should really decide. Also, when you meet in person, still try and meet in a public place and not in your house for instance. Once you feel comfortable to make a decision, you can either let him into your real life, or empty him from your online and real life based on whether you two get along well...
good luck and i hope you meetthe love of your life=D
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (23 April 2007):
 You do not really know this boy. Talking on the phone and chatting on the net do not equate spending time with someone. To really KNOW them you need to spend time actually in their presence, LOTS and LOTS of time. Just cause he says lovely words does not show you what kind of person he truly is. Character has to do with what a person DOES, not what he says or believes. You dont know whether the two of you would even get along if you were to be together. Even going on holiday to visit him wouldnt tell you anything. Anybody can be wonderful for a week! It is being wonderful for the long term that is difficult. Honey, I know you feel like you love him, but it is a fantasy relationship. It is not based in reality. I have heard waaaaaaaaay too many horror stories of girls (and guys) like you who move to another country or city to be with someone they think they love but dont really know only to come home a few months later with their tail between their legs aghast at having thought this was someone they loved.Or worse, getting stuck in that new place, unable to go home, all alone. Do not sacrifice your hopes and dreams for ANYBODY, let alone some fantasy stranger half way across the planet!
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