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writes:"In love with my ex boyfriend's former best friend"(Names have been changed)I've known my ex boyfriend (Let's call him Jr.) for nearly my entire life and we were dating for 10 years before we split due to his drug problem. We have 4 children together and for the past 20 years I have had very strong feeling for his former bestfriend (Let's call him Robert). I say former because due to the drugs and the constant moving around they just drifted apart. Still friends, but not bestfriends. Anyways, like I was saying, I have always harbored feelings for Robert and he has always had a pretty strong attraction to me. We have never even considered dating because of Jr. and because Robert was dating my Aunt who has 2 children by him. (They are no longer together. They have been seperated for 14 years.) Ok, well here is my dilemma. Robert is married with 2 more kids for the last 7 years. my Aunt is married and has 2 more kids with her husband. Robert and I have had secret sexual relations, but nothing recent. The last time we were together was probably 14 years ago. He moved and I moved and we just ended up losing each other. Well we bumped into each other at the grocery store last year and when I seen him all of those old feelings i had for him all came rushing back. Everything that he is, is all I ever wanted in a man. The first time we ever kissed i fell in love with him. i know he still has feelings for me, because he tells me so. We talk ocassionally and we entertain the thought of hooking up, but he is really fighting me on this because he doesn't want to screw up his marriage, the family they have and doesn't want to confuse the kids he has with my aunt, but he also doesn't want to let me go because he feels like if he does we will lose each other for good. i'm really hurting trying to figure out which way to go with this. I will not apologize for my feelings for him, because I love him and sometime the heart can't control who it loves. I believe in my heart we were born for each other, but we have found ourselves in a sticky situation. Please anything you can say to hellp.
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