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writes:i am deeply in love with cousin. i am 16 and he is 21. he also is in love with me. however our family does not yet know about that. i believe that we are one of the most perfect couple as we barely have fights. in fact our likings is so similar that there is no way for arguments. it happened that he has an elder bro who is 23. last time i went there with my family, he had proposed me when i was alone. i refused him on the spot. however he is always after me. doing everything in my favor. me and my bf do not understand how shall we tell him about our relation. he loves his bro very much and does not want to hurt him. please help!!! i also want to know whether it is love or lust???i know that some of you shall be shocked about me having relation with my cousin but i do not want any comments on that please
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reader, sweetlove  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 Not arguing with what the other woman said, but..There are people much older than you who are still in love with there cousins so that part didnt quite make any sence to me. And you want to know if it is love or lust, heres the thing, To tell if its lust(im not sure if you two have had sex) but think about when you two are alone together, is that the only thing he wants to do? He could just be buying you things and do anything in your favor because your a young beautiful 16 year old girl, and like you said hes 21, and guys of that age are attracted mostly to girls of your age sweet inocent not yet fully educated on this stuff type, I want to tell you to give yourself some time to think about this, maybe find a boyfriend or something, and after you find that boyfriend, see who you think of more, your boyfriend or the cousin that you are in love with, If you really are in love with your cousin, IT IS NOT LIKE DATING YOUR BROTHER, coutries over seas marry within their familys to keep wealth and traits in that family.
Her is a list of famous people you can research if your interested that were married to their first cousin.
Queen Victoria and Prince Albert
Outlaw Jesse Woodson James
Albert Einstein(smartest man who ever lived)
Rock & Roll Leagond Jerry Lee Lewis.
My boyfriend is my first cousin. We get along great and never argue and a matter of fact we started dating when i was just 15 and he was 25. I love him so much and feel there is no other man out there like him. Im not encouraging you to go forth with dating your cousin because I have been called alot of mean things and looked down upon by my family for a long time for being with my moms brothers son. You need to think about who you will lose and if you can handle losing them, family friends etc. I wish you the best of luck with your decision!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): Hi, I think that as young women we all fall for a cousin or uncle that is so cute or reminds us of an actor or singer. You are probably too young to recall when Richard Gere hair was all black, but I have a cousin that resembles him to a tee. I had daydreams about him and fancied him he had them about me too. We were what was called "kissing cousin" at the time. Children pre puberty... now we recall it and are a little embarrassed and still we giggle. I hate that you are going through this at 16, it's very sticky situation. Thought from well meaning relatives... as well as threats. And yes the "That's your first cousin... it'd be like dating your brother!" Now that was enough for me to turn a sour ear to. My mother and dad are cousin by another marriage... they are often gigged about it. You will have to think of all that it entails to decide. My prayers go out to you and to him.
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