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writes:Well, I thank I'm falling in love with my brother's Girl friend or do I just to much about her. I don't know why this is happening because, well she has hanged out more with my little brother, and my older brother more then we have hung out before but we still wen't out a, couple of time's, all of us have. But well I did not fall in love with her at first but, A yr ago my neighbor had this party that we all wen't to and it was weird. She want'ed to take a walk just me and her probly, because I thank she want'ed to do some thing but I did not do any thing all though it was really hard not to I had to hold back a'lot of feeling's for that. But why I wonder why I'm falling in love with her. I just hate it because every hug, good bye suck's even more or could I just be reading to much into it. And one more thing one time we wen't out to a bar and I was talking to her friend and she asked if I would you know with her wth was that about, any advice would help thank's mike !?!?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2013): I'm not going to bother repeating what everyone else has scolded you about.Instead I want to suggest what you might do to fix this situation:NO garden walks or w/e, if she wants to be alone with you, say no. Sounds hard? get creative. Get busy. remember that thing you need to do, or that bathroom you need to visit. If she's obviously flirting with you (doesn't sound like it (yet?)) call her out on it. Tell her that you aren't going to put up with it, if she can't behave like a sister type figure, then you two cant have a close relationship at all, and then leave. She'll get the message.Do NOT reciprocate, as tempting as it is, remember your brother! remember that what you chose to do will be stuck with you for the rest of your life. if you ruin his relationship, he may never forgive you. if you SUCCEED and end up with this girl... what would it have cost you.... a bond much closer than what youd gain!
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (12 July 2013):
What are you thinking?!?!? It is your brother's girl!
I hope that you are getting professional help for this. It is obvious that she has been with your brother for awhile so this is a serious relationship. Ask yourself do you love your brother? Would I want my brother hitting on, touching, kissing or have sex with my girlfriend.
Don't destroy your family for a girl that is going to get in-between your family. Your family will have a hard time understanding your actions.
You brother is worth way more than any girl!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (11 July 2013):
 Find someone else. It's your brother's girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2013): Hi Mike,It's forbidden fruit - it's your brother's girl, so you know the saying: "bros before ..."It's probably just a crush, so the best thing is to distance yourself as much as possible. Set up boundaries and stay within those boundaries and don't allow anything between the two of you, and especially never alone time knowing how you feel.She is sending mixed messages, at the neighbours party sounds like she was trying for something, well done on not allowing anything to develop. Be loyal to your brother, you have known him your whole life, whereas this girl is his current girlfriend who does not sound like she will be a long term one by her actions.Try to find something to do just when it's greeting times - like as everyone is saying good bye, say you have to run to the toilet, or some other excuse. Eventually the infatuation will fade and the crush will become less especially when you realise why have feelings for someone who is willing to cheat on your brother? Her friend sounds the same as her, so I would avoid them - if you want to have an uncomplicated, happy peaceful life. Good Luck Mike, stay true to family!Focus your attraction on other girls, there will be others ;-)
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