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writes:Im falling hopelessly in love with my boyfriends cousin. Everything about him is amazing. His 10 years older then me, as in I am 21 and he is turning 31. But I cant stop thinking about him. We meet for coffee and lunch every week, he visits me, we call each other all the time and sms each other and he even went and got mxit for the first time just to be in touch with me. Im so crazy about him, but I dont know what to do, does he like me (he is single)? I mean I really dont know if he likes me, or whether its worthwhile? It just feels amazing to have someone spoil me for a change, to make me feel special. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years now, and he does nothing special for me, he makes me buy lunch, he picks on me the way I look, one week Im too skinny and the next Im fat, but this guy he looks past it all he is more interested in spending time with me talking and stuff. We havent kissed or even held hands, he is respectful like that.My question: From what I have indicated does he like me?And should I go for it if the signs are right or is it just a phase?I can picture myself marrying him, and his changed so much for me.Please help so I know whether I should get on with life without him or whether I should move on with life with him, I mean of course we wont date directly after I break it of with his cousin if I do, we will wait 6 to 12 months so everything settles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi there, thank you so much for the advice its awesome that you replied.
Well a few days ago, I infact told him I liked him, well today he came to visit me and told me he likes me too :)
He also told me I should take a closer look at my boyfriend as he may not be all that "perfect" as he pretends to be. He said he will wait for me because he really wants to be with me, so I can end things with his idiot cousin and then also take a break and he will be here when I need him too. Oh my gosh, we hugged today :) it felt amazing (first time), I can only imagine what the kiss will ever be like if the hug triggered a spark.
My boyfriend, his a bit mad, and Im really afraid, his always threatening me and things and saying I cant leave him or he will ruin my life, I dont know what to do, how to get him out of me life? Im waiting to finish my semester because I will get my degree and then I am going to end it hook or by crook, I dont care if I have to go into freaking hiding, I just dont know how I managed to get myself into this dumb relationship and now Im full of regret. This other guy we can call him maybe Handsome :) well he changed my life in this past month so much and the thing is he never told me to change, its just being around him that kinda 'rubbed' of on me, I believe in God again and worship everyday, Im so happy and its amazing. And as for him,he actually reads now, he wants to study again, he has stopped all his bad habits, its just so amazing. But I need to get out of this relationship, I need to find a way, please help me!!!
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reader, Ravyn66613  +, writes (13 April 2009):
Even in my limited experience, that sounds like love to me.Try hinting that you like him, casually bring it up ("Wouldn't it be funny if we got together?" or something like that) and see what his reaction is. But be cautious, I've been in situations like that and it's turned out that the guy didn't like me that way.If push comes to shove, just ask! Use this as a last resort, though. You don't want to seem weird, if you get my drift.As far as your boyfriend though, I'm amazed you're still with him. If it were me, I would've left a long time ago. If he truly loved you, he wouldn't care about how you look, he'd just treasure the time you spend together (much like it seems his cousin does).If you do decide to leave your boyfriend though, keep in touch with his cousin. Obviously, don't jump straight to him afterwards, but keep talking.I'm sorry if I haven't been much help, I'm dreadfully inexperienced.Anyway, I hope it all turns out alright for you.
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