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writes:hi. i am in love with my aunt. im 21 and shes 34. my uncle passed away 3 years ago and shes been single since. it happen one night when we drank and kissed. we both realise it might not be acceptable by somebody, but i dont feel any guilt out of it. instead, i feel that i want to protect her and take care of her for my late uncle. i was very close with my uncle. she's working alone self employed now and helped by some relatives to pay for her house mortgage, but sooner or later she will need someone else to help her with the work, and as i can see, i am the most preferred person by her and the relatives, but no one knows our relationship. i do not wish to give up on this, as i look into her eyes i realize she is the woman i want to be with for the rest of my life. please advice me on how should i handle this relationship, so that one day in the future we are acceptable by friends and family. (p/s she is not directly related to my family, but my uncle is) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): thank you very much for your advice Cerberus. you speak out what i thought of all these times. as of now, i am convincing her not to give up on us, and that people will learn to accept us one day in the future, after we finally decided to let them know about us. i will still need to complete 1 more year of studies, so i can only be with her in at least 1.5 years time. i am very worried that during this period long distance will make her decided to give up on this.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (28 August 2010):
 I'd like to start by advising you to place the info in brackets FIRST before you say anything else. I was worried for a minute.
If you're not related, there should be no problem, it doesn't matter what the rest of you're family thinks because it sounds like she might really need someone right now and you said that you are her preferred person. Age difference doesn't matter, you aren't blood relatives, you both love each other. You're alright in my book. You're family will just have to learn to accept it because they can't force you to change what you feel.
I hope that helps.
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