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writes:Hello,I recently contacted an old friend of mine that I had not spoken to in a while to wish her a Happy Thanks Giving. After the initial contact a new friendship was rekindled from it and we have been attached by the hips ever since. I have somehow found myself having feelings for her in the process but do not feel she is feeling the same way towards me. She tends to feel comfortable enough to tell me her most intimate confrontations with other men on the dating scene but always finds flaws in them and asks me for my advice and guys perspective as to what went wrong. She also refers to me as she wishes they would be more sincere, attentive and loving like me. I usually am pretty good at picking up on signals but she is just hard to read and all over the place. I really enjoy her company and her friendship is important to me as well. What should I do in this situation, should I: A. Just keep my feelings to myself and just take her for what she is "a friend" or should I: B. Tell her how I feel about her and risk things getting weird and her putting distance between us? or C. Go with the cliché that if it's meant to be it will be BS. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): Non of the above. Dont tell her, show her! Make an amazing gesture that you no she'l love. Flatter her tell how beautiful she looks, flirting very important. You could also tell her about your lady friends since she talks so openly and say stuff like "Its going terribly I wish we got along as well as me and you" Or "I wish she was as warm hearted as you" That kind of thing. And by tht end of it if she did'nt like you more than a friend then she probably will do now!
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