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*herrybomb1313
writes:Lemme give you the the back story (cause I needs to purge it): I've been friends with W for about 3 years now. The sexual tension between us has always been heavy, but he is masterful at giving mixed signals (not to mention a man whore) so I never capitalized on an opportunity...until this past year before he left. He confessed his love to me early last fall, but I was lusting after someone else so rejected his advances.During the spring semester we then had a class together. We sat next to each other and it soon became our thing for him to walk me across campus to my next class. Our conversations during or walks basically consisted of us bitching about our non existent love lives (which now looking back on it was an indirect way of keeping tabs on who each of us was fucking, thinking about fucking or who wanted to fuck us, for our own selfish reasons). A few weeks into the semester I went home with one of his best friends (also a good friend of mine). Of course during our walk I had told W about my romp session with his bestie, thinking that he had heard the news by then anyway. Immediately I could tell his was shocked and hurt...opps! This is the point when I started to realize I had feelings for W, so I made a conscious decision to stop pursuing anything with his best friend.Soon after the ice finally broke we were now publicly affectionate (making out in front of our friends etc.)and he came home with me for the first and last time...the foreplay was passionate, long and the best I've had thus far. We didn't have sex b/c no condom...things were getting intense and I freaked out a little...I started to avoid him (his texts and going to class), but he in turn did the same to me (never responded to my advances or called me on the weekends anymore). I needed a break from everything, so I went visit my twinny. Over that weekend I realized I wanted something solid with W, but he broke some news before I got the chance to say anything. He was going to spend the summer in NY for an internship and then he was going abroad to study (which I already knew). He was gonna be away for a total of 9 months. It was pointless I figured in telling him my feelings so just continued to ignore him .Then after a night of avoiding each other at a party he asked me to come home with him...I think we both just wanted to fuck each other and get it over with before he left. So during our rendezvous there was no foreplay, passion, tenderness etc...just drunken 2 minute Neanderthal sex. No afterglow cuddling, just passive awkward tugging fights for the blanket. I attempted in seeing him before he left by asking him to get together for a proper good bye, but he never responded. I was really hurt and upset that he treated me like one of his usual loose high school chicks he fancies...I was his friend before anything else. Even though things didn't end so well I still missed him, so I sent him a package while he was in NY...but no fucking "thank you" only a brief facebook inquiry. I then learned a day after I sent the package that he got a girlfriend (ouuuch!)He came back today. This past month he has been sending me brief messages online (I'm guessing as a way of saying "I miss you"??) After the bad sex and mind games, I don't know what to do when I see him again. I couldn't handle being just friends with him again.I don't know if I should pursue a second go around?? What should I do?? Say to fuck with him, or try again?? Please help mee!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 December 2008):
 Yikes, there is already a lot of drama in this relationship. It sounds like he's moved on, at least he seems to have found a girlfriend, right? And I expect you're a little angry with yourself for losing control of the situation.
I don't know, this one may be irretrievable. When you do see him again, you could just tell him that the whole thing went way out of control and you just need a break from him until you feel that you might be able to be just friends with him.
If you feel that you two did have a real connection, and he's not just your ordinary manwhore jerkimus, then you might try an honest conversation with him. What do you have to lose if this is the case?
If he's just showing his true colors, and he is a manwhore jerkimus, then you have nothing to lose by cutting contact with him. Be polite and distant if you see him and don't get caught up in this infantile game playing.
Good luck, and I hope school is going well, if you're still a student!
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reader, sommerslover +, writes (21 December 2008):
 You were friends before, so you both should be able to sit down and talk things out. You also need to decide what you want to do before anything else. Let him know how you truly feel about ALL that has happened, and ask him what he really wishes to do with his life, be it with or without you. At least then you will know where you stand.
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