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writes:I have a problem, I'm very much in love with my boyfriend who I've been dating for a while. He told me that he had PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) after an accident in which his close friend died. He keeps himself to himself in his own space and rarely speaks to people apart from his family and myself. Tonight he got really angry with me for something as little as restarting his computer. and it's not really in his nature to be like he was. I'm finding it hard because I don't like being spoke to the way he spoke to me after having lots of bad previous relationships. and I don't like to make the same mistakes over, so I panick and start to think that the relationship is in jepordy.I'm just finding it hard to connect to him sometimes because he's so shut off in his little world, and I don't want to bring another conversation up about the accident because I can tell how much it upsets him.I really don't know what to do about my boyfriends pstd but if we carry on the way we are then we'll end up splitting up. I really do love him and he loves me too, it's breaking my heart that I have to see him go through this and not be able to help.Please someone help us. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): two people need to be happy before they can be happy together. He needs to solve his own problems, you can't be his saviour, and it works vice-versa. I'm sorry if it hurts. I know what it's like to walk on eggshells. Some people have hot buttons you'll end up pushing without even trying. When this happens, I try to give them time to sort out their own issues. If they can't change/resolve it, and I can't handle the way they treat me in the relationship (as a result of it), then I don't have much choice but to leave. I hope things work out for the best for you, regardless.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (15 June 2008):
 I am going to say that I don't know a thing about PTSD, but I did find this article about it through Google. I would definitely suggest getting your boyfriend in for treatment if he isn't in some kind of therapy now.
http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/ritual_abuse/82659
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 June 2008):
Sometimes you can go in and help a person and bring them out of themselves. Sometimes they are just too damaged for one girl to be able to handle.
If you can get him out of the house as much as possible and try and remind him that life is worth living, not hiding away from then you may stand a chance with this guy.
If he really has serious PTSD then you may just not be able to help him on your own. Make sure he's getting therapy and be his friend, but that may be all you can do without getting dragged down into his sad little world.
Good Luck!! xx
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