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writes:Over this past year, I've met the most beautiful person of my life. She's funny, smart, and just makes me get the most biggest smile on my face when I'm around her. I met her about a year ago and we've worked together ever since. I've liked many girls in my life but never enough to say I love them. She is just a beautiful person and there isn't one day that goes by where I don't think about her. If given the choice of millions of dollars or to spend my life with her, I would spend it with her. But I realized that she has a boyfriend and I've tried to come to terms with it but I can't. We always talk together, go on break together, walk out together, and so on. How does one move on from someone they love so much? I see her all the time and I continually get drawn to her. It often brings tears to my eyes when I think about it (I don't care if that sounds babyish for a guy). I love her so much and I don't know what to do. the whole situation just makes me feel so lost and crappy...
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (19 October 2008):
 I say that you risk it all and reveal your feelings to her. I've learned the hard way in life that if you play games, you're just gonna confuse people.
I don't have a clue as to whether the girl is happy, or loves him. I've been in unrequited love (more than once!) and it SUCKS, so I know how much it will hurt you if she loves him, but... at least you'll have an answer.
I think that nearly everyone has met someone that they feel is perfect for them, except for the fact that they met at the wrong time and under the wrong circumstances.
If the worst happens, then tell her that you understand her feelings, want her to be happy, and continue to be her friend. It's hard to be happy for someone when it involves suffering on your part, but if you love her, I'm sure you want her to be happy.
There's always the possibility that she and the boyfriend will break up eventually. Don't put your life on hold for her to break up, but be there for her if she needs a friend.
When your heart is broken, moving on seems impossible, but even though you don't realize it at the time, it helps to have closure and not that twinge of doubt in your mind.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (19 October 2008):
you know what..if i was her i would want you to just tell me how you feel. DON'T go on a date with some other girl to just make her jealous, it won't work, as she will just think that you are nothing more then just friends. it gives the wrong impression off straight away. us girls just like you guys to be honest with us. If she is not interested in you like that, then at least she knows you care for her. you never know maybe she has the same feelings for you, but is sticking with her bf because she is not sure about how you feel. just tell her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): Dude, go out with someone else and make her jealous, it could be as simple as that, if you're with someone else she might see just how great you really are. It sounds stupid, but it just might work. However, it could backfire and she might think that you're not interested in her. It's your choice Is it a risk you're willing to take for her?
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