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writes:i have been with the same guy for almost a year now. we get along great. this is the same guy i almost married years ago. i have come to the conclusion that he will never stop drinking on a daily basis. i accept it. i dont approve of it but everyone has issues. he says now that im the best girlfriend he has ever had. he says he loves me in an everlasting way. i do whatever i can to make him happy. i sacrifice alot of what i want to do. ive been trying to help him find another job. im there for him as much as i can be. he says now that he should have never let me go. i dont want to date for years and it end again abruptly. will he ask me to marry him again soon? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (5 February 2009):
You don't want to end up alone?
Unless you are dying of cancer in the near future then that is NO excuse.
You have a minimum of 35 years left on this planet, why tie yourself to the first halfway decent guy that comes along?
If you were truely happy with him you wouldn't have made a point of saying he was an alcoholic and how you are giving things up for him.
Deep down you know he isn't good enough and I'm not going to be sympathetic or think it's romantic that you are willing to suffer for love... I'm going to tell you your're an idiot.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni appreciate your feedback. i am just the kind of person who gives it my all. i have dated different kinds of men. i dont want to end up alone so yes i am willing to settle for a little less. he does have some upstanding qualitites. he is charming, funny and takes me with my quirks. i have adjusted to his ways. for the most part i believe he loves me unconditionally. i will just take it day by day and hope that love will conquer all.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (4 February 2009):
 What is marriage to you? What for that matter is love?
I get the feeling you want to get married at any cost. Your happiness, your dreams, your goals.
So be it. Hope you still feel the same in 10 years when you are later forties and things are still the same.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 February 2009):
So your relationship is still one sided, still negatively affecting your life and you are really happy about this?
If you are that desperate for a white dress then just go and buy one! You don't need to settle for anything less than someone who makes YOU perfectly happy.
Why are you so desperate to tie yourself to this guy when he is not making you happy or fulfilling your life to the fullest?
Good Luck!! xx
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