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writes:ok so i was with my exbf for two months..i fell head ovr heels for him..he was really amazing and well he ended up breaking up with me bcuz he sed he wasnt ready and i guess wen i tld him i loved him he didnt take it the way i wanted him to..it sucks.2day is a month that weve bn broken up.we still talk and a week ago he kinda suprised kissed me n sed he wasnt done.but like then he acts like he doesnt want me..idk wat 2 do..any help?he sed he'll be broken if he was to see me with another guy..but idk what to do!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): I think you should do nothing. Don't call him text him email him im him nothing. He broke up with you after only two months and telling him you loved him first may have scared him a little, but he may just be stringing you along and he wants to stay single and keep his dating options open, which is what I think you should do as well.
You have to try and keep your head and heart from falling head over heels so soon with a guy and realize that most of what you are feeling is infatuation and lust, which means you don't know him well enough yet to be in love.
He isn't showing that he has too much interest in being exclusive with you, but if you go chasing him and talking to him he probably is going to back away and feel pressured. If you think he really does have genuine feelings for you and he may, you might try just sending him a very short hand written note that says something like this:
I know that sometimes things seem pretty intense with us and it went kind of fast, but I hope that you will not be done with me just because you are scared.
Don't let him get away if he is just scared, but take some time to sush him out and see if he is just a player....protect your heart a little bit and play a little hard to get by just not being so available. If he asks you out on one day don't cancel your plans, but suggest another day, let him know you aren't sitting around waiting by the phone for his calls....and maybe let him see you out with another guy, even if it is just a friend, he doesn't have to know...but don't act all stand offish either, speak to him if you run into him and be your normal happy self....let him wonder what you are up to....guys like the chase.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Obviously, He's not done! Sometimes it's hard to break all contact at once...especially when one is confused or unsure. He doesn't want to let you go entirely, because he is afraid he will regret it.
If you are willing to hang in there...if he means that much to you...if you can take only what he can give right now, then do it. If not, walk away.
I wish you luck!
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reader, arie +, writes (24 May 2009):
 i think you should have a talk with him and tell him how u feel. only wait if u really truely feel that he is worth fighting for sweety. you need to confront him about this or ur just wasteing your time and stressing over him for nothing and you dont need to be. if he would be hurt with you being with another guy then i think he really does care aout you, but he might just be trying to control you too so dont fall for that, he might be seeing someone else and keeping you for back up. so just talk to him and make him convince you that he really cares and just wants to wait FOR YOU! good luck and godbless
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