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writes: what do i do? i feel like im in love with my 16yr old cousin i just want to hug her and hold her and talk. but every time i see her i just like get shy and horny. i feel the same about 3 outher cousins. what do i do about my feelings?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (4 January 2007):
 Expand your circle of friends honey. I think you need to get out more, are you family the only people you see?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): Hi there,
It's ok to have feelings for your cousins - it's completely normal. According to the NSGC (National Society of Genetic Counselors), consanguineous relationships which bear offspring only have a 4-6% risk of birth defects compared to 2-3% with normal couples; which translates into a 1.7 - 2.8% increase in risk which is about the same as a woman over 40 giving birth. With more older women giving birth (recently a 67 year old woman gave birth to twins), the age associated with such births will be lowered. What's more, it is legal to marry your first cousin in 26 states (over half the country) and many countries around the world allow it as well.
However this doesn't give you a permission slip to sleep with your cousins. What about your feelings for them? It doesn't sound like you're IN LOVE with them, but rather INFATUATED with them more than anything. Before you act on any impulses, you should think about how you really feel for your cousins and whether these feelings are impulsive or not.
For more information and support on this subject, go to http://www.cousincouples.com and there's a message board there. Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): Whatever it takes to get over these feeling, do it. All that this interest in your cousins will cause for you is trouble (and I don't care how much fun you think it will be in the short run). For your own good, get over these feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): You mean u lust after them. I don't think anyone really knows what love is, especially the way you've said it. Without writing an essay on what love could be, I'll just that you should read Vina's advice and try them. Meeting other girls, outside of family is a very positive thing. You're still young, these feelings are raw and brutal. You need more time to refine yourself with experience.
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (4 December 2006):
 You need to go out and meet girls who are not your cousins. Expand your circle of friends and get to know other girls. Get you mind off your cousins. Stay away from them before they get totally creeped out by you. Keep yourself busy and soon these thoughts will be out of your mind. Unless of course you want these girls to know how you feel for them. If that's what you want I would strongly advise that you don't tell them. If none of them like you back (which I don't think they do)things will get awkward. You don't want that do you? How old are you by the way? More info is needed on this whole situation.
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