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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyone, I apologize as this may be a bit long. Just a bit of info, I'm a 19 year old girl in a relationship with my bf for just about 9 months. I'm not really sure if this is a relationship question or what, but I really feel as if I have no one to talk to. I have been living with my roommate for around 9 months as well. My parents are divorced, my dad lives about an hour and a half away from me and my mom lives a province and a half away from me (I live in Canada). I feel really alone and I really don't know where to turn. My roommate and I are close but I'm starting to resent her because living with someone really makes you see sides of them that you would never know about if you didn't live with them. She annoys me a lot and I'm looking forward to our lease being over soon. I'm extremely insecure in my relationship, I overanalyze everything way too much and it's something that I'm trying to work on but my anxiety and issues make it easier said than done. My boyfriend is great, but I feel like he's starting to lose patience with me. We've started bickering a little more than usual which worries me (I worry a lot) and I don't think its because we see each other all the time, we don't, we see each other often but it's not a routine. Our sex life is normal and good. I feel depressed lately, like I'm just wondering if we'll last long enough to get married and start a family. Money is tight because I have rent to pay and my phone bill, car insurance, to put gas in my car and groceries and such; basically to support myself. I feel so lost, like I have no idea what I'm doing with my life. I feel annoyed with everyone in my life and would prefer to either be alone or with just my boyfriend. When I'm not working I usually sleep. I don't like going out anymore, it just doesn't interest me. I've been in this crappy mood for some time now, and I feel like the only person who can make me feel better is my bf, but he doesn't always have time for me as we both work full time and I understand that. I worry if I talk to him about this stuff he will be annoyed with me. I tend to ramble as you can see. I'm just at such a low point in my life and I feel like I'm just dragging everyone down with me. I don't know what the next step is to take. My friends always come to me for help with their problems but I can never seem to take my own advice. I'm often the one who is the middle person if 2 of my friends are having a fight, I hear both sides and then it's like they expect me to pick one. I feel so crappy mentally and physically. I randomly cry for no reason, it's so weird. I've also been feeling down because I've had 2 friends pass away within the last 3 months. Both deaths were sudden and heartbreaking. I guess my point of all this and what I'm asking is, what do I do now? How do I get out of this rut? Sorry for all this rambling, any advice would be appreciated, thanks!
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (8 November 2011):
 We all hit ruts from time to time, and you're right -- having someone to talk to can be a huge help. Depending upon where you live, there may be a free help line like this one http://www.distresscentre.com/
I called these folks years ago, and they were helpful and didn't force a religious view:
http://www.salvationarmy.ca/2009/08/09/support-line-for-youth-in-crisis/
You're smart to reach out. It sounds like you need an objective ear -- see if there's an organization serving your community.
Good luck.
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