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writes:I am 20 years old and recently I got a physical relationship with my professor who is about 16 years older than me. I can't prevent myself when he comes closer or touches or kisses me.He is very serious about study and concerned about the careers of the students. He is very helpful and a respected person. But nowadays I felt a weakness towards him which is more than only physical relationship. Each and every second I am thinking about him. His happiness matters me a lot. I want to see him happy always. He does not love me, but I love him a lot, it's impossible for me to tell about my feelings to him though we have a physical relationship. I want to forget him, I want to concentrate only in my studies, but I cant. please give some solutions. please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2012): I doubt very much what you feel is love, but more you have a big crush on him. If he doesn't feel the same for you, then he's just using you for whatever it is he's getting from you. You need to tell him you no longer want this physical thing with him anymore because from the sound of it, this will never become anything more.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (18 November 2012):
 I believe that you have revealed 'way more than you expected in your post....
First: There is NO REASON for a faculty member to have ANY SORT of "physical" relationship, or goings-on, with ANY of the students in his/her classes. THAT is patently wrong...... and you will be deluged with replies that will point this out to you...
Secondly: You write: "He is very serious about study and concerned about the careers of the students. He is very helpful and a respected person."
As regards your final line: "...please give some solutions. please help me..."
OK.... here's the "help".... STOP putting out for this cad.... MAKE IT KNOWN what he (and you) have been up to... since he, really, should be removed from his position of trust.... AND, then, get away from him, and STAY AWAY from him.....
Good luck... Study hard....
THIS is totally false... as you are about to hear (again, from those of us who reply). We will tell you that:
He's not AT ALL serious about study and the careers of his students. What he IS concerned about is getting to bed you (and, probably) others of his female students. WRONG!
He is not respected.... at least, he will NOT BE once his predeliction to this well-known wrong-doing comes to light. NO "respected" faculty member behaves in this manner.. (If you don't believe me, ask Jerry Sandusky!).
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (18 November 2012):
 So you're a student, and he's teaching one of your classes?? If so, then this isn't good. Teaching staff should not be in a relationship with their student! You need to break this off, before he gets in trouble...
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