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writes:I have fallen in love a hundred times with only 1 guy, he deeply love me. he respects me, he always try to understand me even sometimes I know I’m being so dumb. I am 25 and he’s 26, and we are living together for 2years now, far from our home country and we’ve set our wedding on 2012. Our relationship never been a second best, only until he has dig in to a sport twice a week, and suddenly he enjoys apart from me and spends weekend with his workmates and every day before sleeping he spends time with his video games and net surfing! And also, he got lots of girl friends, (glad that he always introduce me as his wife) but he can’t avoid talking to these people everyday…….. I’m jealous of the attention he’s giving to others, he is so comfortable with me that he thinks whatever he do, wherever he go I’m always fine with it!!!! and it makes me soooooo pissed! nevertheless, he still kisses me, he calls and tell me how he love me… but then I am feeling like I lost my self esteem, I focused on him so much and makes him my world, my life has been isolated and I misses my friends. I want the old “ME” to come back.. funny, outgoing and never scared of trying out something new. I realized I missed my life, and I’m just not so sure if I want it alone or with my partner. It scares me when “end” runs in my mind. I love him and I don’t want to lose what we have, but it makes me fall apart. It makes me sick. It makes me feel unpretty. Im so lost. Need help badly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much.
it really helps me to boost my effort to fix this.
i will speak to him, just like before whenever we're facing some problems. i'll be as honest as i can, though I know, it wouldnt that easy for me to admit to my partner that im jealous at times or insecure or taken forgranted because of the golden "pride" :)
I love him and i understand that not only me are suffering from this pain (that's deep! :) so lets this one work.
i wish all of us will be happy with or without someone :)
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reader, petina1  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 He has found other interests and there's nothing wrong with that. You may have to pull him back a bit on the surfing of the net, it can be very addictive. You could ask him for some time together one day a week when he turns the internet off and spends the time with you and not his mates, one day a week is not too much to ask for is it? Also have you not got anything else in your life apart from him. Sooner or later it won't be enough for you and he will have to pay for that. We all need other interests and as long as they don't jeapordize the relationship it is normal and healthy. He sounds like he loves you, just allow him some freedom, but like i say, you still need a little time alone together as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): You say you focus on him too much. That probably what the problem is. You need to start concentrating on you a bit more. Do you have a job? Any hobbies? What you need to do is start meeting new people and start socialising again. The less you're stuck at home and the more that you're out doing new things the less you will be thinking about your boyfriend and what he's doing. Making him your whole world isn't good for you, you need your own life too.
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 OH GOSH PLEASE just think about this for a moment..Which im sure you are anyway!I recently came out of a 5+ year relationship and yes we had Exactly the same signs all over it.BIGGEST problem that I had was Communication! TELL him how you feel but don't shout at him just sit down and tell him "You really need to listen to what I have to say" Hes eyes are probably going to go really big since hes going to think youre ending it!Then just say exactly what you just told us and tell him you want to make this work but you cant stop these feelings! TRUST ME I did things differently and i messed up soo bad and If I could I would change that but its to late for me now!Also tell him how you feel about the girls and also the "Missing out on life and girlfriends" is true but its things you can change inside the relationship.I wish my GF told me everything I just asked you to tell him!Once you get out of the relationship youl find that its just as boring as always and youre probably going to be pretty much disabled from depression for roughly a year+ Please dont trust everything I say this is just my own experience talking!
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