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writes:Hi. this is actually weird and hard to type and to share with everyone, as i havent spoke about this to my best mates, or my family, as i know wht theyll say, but i dont know if i want to except it.I'm 17 and have been goin out with my bf, who is 20 ths year for 3 years.Things were so great for the first two years, its jst the last year that has changed the way we have been to each other. Last summer, I seen on my bfs Msn that he had two account names, when asked why, he said nothing, it doest matter, so i was intrguied! when he feel asleep i logged on and had to see why. When i did i actually felt a lump in my throat and my heart slowin breakin :/ I read emails from an escourt, one who he had been emailin, askin various questions about if they were to meet, i remember one clearly, he asked: "Can i cum more than once or do i have to stop after the frist time" and she replied "no, you can cum as much times as you like"I grabbed my shoes and i stamped about as i tried to shove them on, he woke up and asked wht i was doing, i told him it was over and i then told him about the emails, he got angry tht i had read them and then pretended tht it was his uncle who was doin it for a laugh, this of course made me furious as he was lyin right to my face. He then told me the truth and told me tht he felt guilty emailin her but he never met her as he loves me so much.Sp its been a year, and things are pretty bad, they havent improved since. He jst annoys me with the way he acts liek he knows everything, he talks like hes a gangster and as if he knows the streets of glasgow soo so well but he doesnt! he is jst tellin me as he knows from his dads friends. He also, moans as we dont have sex, as much as i havent been tht keen to sleep with him since wht happened last year, we've went from havin sex every week to once every three months, but hes put on so much weight. it actually hurts me when he lies on top of me as he is so heavy, and i cant go on top as it hurts my legs as i need to really spred them out, im sorry for goin into detail but i weasnt you to know the suituation. I jst get so jelous with him and other girls now, i think tht if he was prepared to cheat with me with some old women he picked up off the net, then whts stoppin him with some hot girl from the dancin or a club? I cant help it. also, ive been chattin to alot molre guys over msn or wht not as i love the things they say about me, I love the commpliments, and i lvoe the fact tht they dont act like someone there not, he also is very jelous of my best friend, who is male. Is it the end for us :SI'm young, i dont want to be trapped in a pointless relationship for the rest of my life, so please, help me. I do love him, but sometimes i woduner, are we ment to be? x
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 Yeah, your relationship is over and you are holding on to something that is obviously broken. The trust and respect is gone, and its not worth it to put in the effort to repair it. You are young, and should be out there dating and seeing other men. Don't tie yourself down, you'll be miserable. Now you have to do the breaking up. It's hard but it must be done.
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reader, davey2008 +, writes (29 September 2008):
This all sounds a bit strange to me....first when you asked him about the two usernames why didn't he tell you about the joke between him and his uncle. it could be totally innocent and he thought it would be better to conceal the secret instead of hurting you but wht did he not get rid of that username after you found it, if it was a joke then he no longer needs the second username right?
Second if he is complaining about the amount of sex he his getting then it is probably not worth staying in the relationship as he soounds a bit shalow but you should talk with him about why you do not want to have sex with him, as a healthy sex life contributes to a healthy relationship.
yours sincerely
davey
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): You already know the answer to your question! You MUST leave him! It took me 2years to build up the courage to leave my ex and regret wasting even more time with him. You're clearly not happy and could do so much better! Do yourself a favour and make that break. It will be hard for a wee while but worth it in the end. Don't waste your life with some1 you dont trust-you only get 1 life and you deserve to be happy!x
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