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male
age
30-35,
*aradise_Lost
writes:I'm 21 and I've never had a girlfriend before. I don't usually have a problem with this because a lot of my close friends are either single or in mediocre relationships. I've dated a few girls last year but I didn't have any real feelings for them so I didn't go into relationships with any of them. However, I'm worried that by not having a girlfriend I'd be "missing out" on certain life experiences (I'm still a virgin) that I should be having around my age. Also, I don't see myself getting a girlfriend in the future because it's just so damn hard to find someone I can like. Usually, I have a very hot and cold reaction to girls. Either I'm not interested in them at all or I just have an insane crush on them and wanting to be their boyfriend right away. However, I've only met four or five girls like that in my entire life (they've all rejected me). I've tried online dating but I could only find a few girls attractive but their personalities don't match with mine.So my questions are: 1. Should I be worried right now if I haven't had a girlfriend? 2. How would you feel dating a guy who's never had a girfriend or any other relationships? 3. Are my standards too high? How is it that so many people are successful at dating / relationships while I can barely find girls I like?4. Will dating get easier in my late 20s (more people interested in relationships and etc.).Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2012): Dude.... I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend and never had sex. It's getting to the point for me that I'm considering of getting a female escort (which is a nice way of saying whore) to lose it to. I'm not a bad looking guy either, I'm in good health, and I fell good about myself. Just women aren't into me. It happens... just give it time but if your getting in your later years like me and still nothing... then start to worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2012): Lots of women would say it's great that you are staying single and celibate rather than dating all the wrong women.
But if you decide you want to hold out for a woman like yourself, who hasn't been dating a whole string of the wrong men . . . look out, here comes the character assassination.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (3 April 2012):
 1. No
2. I married a guy who hadn't dated much and I love him so much.
3. No. How do you know other people are successful. Just because they are in a relationship doesn't mean they are any happier than you.
4. Dating will get easier when you relax about meeting the "right" one and just enjoy yourself and have fun.
21 is still pretty young. Most of the people I know didnt' get married until they were in their late 20's to late 30's. You still have plenty of time. Go out with big groups of people and enjoy yourself to the max.
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