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writes: Kay me and my girlfriend had this horrible fight about me not spending enough time with her after her dad died and wont go to his funeral (I can't handle funerals with wanting to pass out). It got the point where were just streaming at each other, Then she called me "an selfish jerk for only thinking about myself" so I yelled "your a f***ing bitch and you deserve for your idiot dad to drop dead". She started crying after I said it and ran off to her sister's place (drama queen). Now I feel like complete asshole and I'd called her a few times but she wont answer her phone and im worry if I go her sister's she'll slam the on my face. Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (13 February 2009):
 yeah..if you ahd a reason why you didn't want to go to the wedding(like fainting) than you guys should've sat down and tlked about it..
but you went too far calling her a fucking bitch and that she deserves for her idiot dad to drop dead...copntrol your temper..
i agree with "boobunny"
you should just apoligize to her and dont give up
next time tlk it out...dont let it get to this point
gudd luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): Here's a thought: don't let your anger get so ridiculously out of control that you say disgustingly hurtful things like that to her. She was not being a drama queen for leaving after you crossed the line like you did. If your father recently died, would you like it if someone told you he was an idiot and that he deserved to drop dead? I doubt it. She has every right to be upset right now and you need to be more sensitive to her feelings. Right now she needs to cool down about the fight. Meanwhile, you need to prove that you're actually sorry for saying something so cruel. Go over there and apologize if that is your only means of contacting her. And mean it. If she slams the door in your face then she was not ready to forgive you, but don't give up.
Also, I think you need to work on your temperment. She was obviously emotional, what with her father dying and all, so you need to be the mature one and be there for her. When your anger is rising like that, get away, and fast. Tell her you're running to the store to go get something or stepping outside for a breath of fresh air, or even just go into a different room. Explosive arguments like these are only going to tear your relationship apart. Get some control.
I hope that everything works out for you. Best of luck!
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