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writes:m and my girlfriend have been together for about 6 months. she's nice, attractive and smart, very smart, in fact she goes to durham and studies maths. i'm doing engineering at manchester, but i know she is smarter than me (it's not a problem i actually prefer that). however at the weekend i was at one of her friends parties. it's the first time i have met her university friends, but when i tried listening to conversations, some of the topics were too complex for me and i didn't want her to think i was an idiot. so i spent most of the night with my girlfriend or on my own, even though she kept persuading me to talk to some of her friends. am i worrying too much for no reason about her thinking i'm an idiot?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): Durham student here again...
To the other two people who answered...
1. Contrary to popular opinion, intelligent people generally have _more_ common sense than less intelligent ones. "Common Sense" _IS_ intelligence.
2. Bridget Jones _WAS_ the more intelligent of the two. You're muddling up intelligence with appearance.
3. Intelligent people tend to be less boring than stupid ones.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Alot of people that are intelligent have not got an ounce of common sence in them, i would by far chose to talk to people with common sence.
You are obviously clever enough yourself to get into uni in the first place, so don't worry about what some people know or don't know, nine times out of ten that information probably never gets used for anything practical anyways.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): I studied Engineering at Durham, hehe.Intelligence is such a complex thing. Impossible to quantify. Some people are artistic geniuses, some are mathematical ones, and some are social butterflies... many things require intelligence. Simply because you couldn't follow a few specific conversations absolutely does not mean that you're less intelligent. Were they questions about the specifics of their maths course? Don't go muddling up factual knowledge with intelligence! I can't imagine that Einstein would have been particularly good at Trivial Persuit!If you meet someone who appears to know more than you about something, embrace them! It's a rare opportunity to learn something new. If you don't understand something, ask them to explain it. You're studying possibly the most difficult subject there is to study, which covers not only mathematics, but electronics, programming, mechanics, fluid dynamics - you name it... you can relax in the knowledge that you are clever - you have nothing to hide.(PS. If they can't explain exactly what it is that they're talking about, in simple english, in a way that a Manchester Uni Engineering student can't understand, then your bullshit detector should start bleeping. There's a lot of fake confidence at Durham - most of the students there applied to Oxford or Cambridge, got turned down, and have a BIG chip on their shoulder because of it.)
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