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writes:My boyfriend and I are having troubles. I have a fear that he is more interested in my friend ( who is married..by the way) as they have quite similar personalities and enjoy the same hobbies and have been bought up a siminlar way. My friend has married someone who has quite a different personality to her. I am afraid that as my boyfriend and I get closer...we have bought up the topic of buying property, what we could afford together and where we could live. We spend alot of time together and he has never been in a relationship longer than a month. I am 32 and he is thirty six. I am worried that he is more attracted to women who share more common interests...this has not been the first time... and it worries me. When I worry I withdraw. I have been in several relationships, one which left me quite emotionally scarred. He is a christian (i'm not), but that doesn't mean that he is a good person and that i can trust him. when i think about this i just don't feel good enough. Sorry to sound so depressing ! I would appreciate advice/thoughts. Thank you.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Is there any concrete reason to imagine your partner may be interested in anyone other than yourself? Otherwise it may just be a case of you projecting your insecurities about yourself onto him.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 You need to stop worrying about this. It sounds like you are insecure and find it difficult trusting other people? Has anything happened in the past that would make you have these feelings?
Just because you have both different religions and personalities does not mean that you are not the perfect match and more than likely he probably just sees your friend and a person he can be friends with as well.
you need to sit down and tell him how you feel he may be able to help you over come your anxiety issues and if he cant then maybe you should go to counselling as you may end up losing him if you keep putting yourself down all the time.
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