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writes:I don't know if my girlfriend cheated on me, and I'm scared to find out.About a month or so ago, my girlfriend of about 6 months went on vacation to her home town with her family, which happens to be where her ex lives. He's an old friend of her family, and as a result, she mentioned having to spend time with him and the "rush of feelings and memories" she got when she saw him. She was away for about 3 weeks and during the second week, our relationship hit a small rough patch when she started getting very distraught over our differing personal beliefs (for example she wants a marriage within the next few years, but I want to wait until we're older and our lives are more stable). For about two days she kept confronting me nonstop about my beliefs and brought up how much her family loves her ex since he follows her beliefs while I tried my hardest not to turn it into a fight. Then for a whole day after that, she completely ignored my texts and told me it was because her mom was holding her phone that day. For a few days after that, she was extremely irritable and constantly accused me of cheating on her with my best friend. I trust her completely, and I'm trying not to over think it but the signs are there. I'm not sure if I should ask her and I don't know if I even want to find out, but it's really bugging me and I can't stop thinking about it. I love her dearly. It hurts to even imagine that she would cheat on me, and I don't even know ehat I'd do if I found out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2016): Not necessarily and sure why wouldn't you ask her and find out!!! Maybe nothing happened!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2016): Would it be okay for you to pressure your GF into sex before she is ready?
It's just as wrong for her to pressure you into marriage before you are ready.
Im sorry to say it does sound A LOT like she cheated. If your gut says yes then your gut is probably right.
Prepare for denials. If you get her to admit anything at all then it will probably be Trickle Truth. When confronted about cheating females usually admit things this way rather than straight out honesty.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 February 2016):
 She's not mature enough for marriage. She's using her ex to make you jealous and as a catalyst to goad you into marrying her. Well you backfire this on her and tell her to marry her ex and leave you alone then. No need for this drama about cheating.
Wanting to get married within a certain time period is not a belief like you believe in Jesus, or you believe that eating pork is no good. Marriage is a life long commitment in which two people have to be ready. Well, you can say there are people who believe in marrying young so when you still have energy to take care of your kids when they grow older, but there has to be two willing partners. Obviously her ex did not agree because otherwise they would not have broken up. To marry at a young age is a preference, and should not be used as a reason for argument. In her case it's a manipulation to get her way.
It sounds like she's juggling two men to see which one would marry her first. If I were you I would not want to know (if she cheated) either. But she's got to go. She has unfinished business with him so she has no business pressuring you to get married.
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