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writes:I've always preferred to be single and I am now thirty. I was hurt badly many years ago. Since then I've traveled and lived abroad and really got to know who I am. I've found a career that I love and I am very content with my life. I've started opening up to the dating world again. Most men I feel no connection with or most of them are just interested in having sex. I'm nervous that I won't ever find true companionship. I don't mind being alone but I am more curious than ever to be in a healthy relationship. Is there something I'm doing wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 November 2011):
Don't ask what men want. Ask what you want and find a man who answers that description. One of the problems I've noticed a lot is that women spend a lot of time trying to change themselves for men, when they'd be better off staying single and actually finding a man who likes them as they are.
The other guy was clearly only interested in sex, whereas you want more. So though it might take a bit longer, you're much better off working out what you want from a man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You! I must say I've found a man who did make me feel that connection. Then he disappeared on me. I was so hurt! He came back into my life for what I hoped to be genuine. All he wanted was to sleep with me again. It's hard! I'm trying my best to be non jaded. I later found out he made himself exclusive with a girl who I've been told is sleezy and immature. What is it that men want?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 November 2011):
I don't think so at all. I think actually that you've done the right things. You were hurt, and rather than go from relationship to relationship, you went out into the world and really found out who you were. That's great! Because it ultimately means that when you do meet someone that you have a connection with, it'll be very meaningful and you'll actually have lots of things in common. You know what you like, you know yourself and you probably know what you want in a man.
You're not doing anything wrong. What you need to do is keep on looking, keep on living your own life and at some point the right man will slip nicely into it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): Hi!! I am feeling the same thing,,,I am 33yr old female and single...meeting here and there and nothing seems real..I am professional and I am good looking, I take care about myself, I support myself too.
A least you have a good career..Some times I am thinking that I am wasting my time.
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