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writes:I'm starting to become scared of myself. My father was a paedophile and had a number of other bad things too, like an large collection of porn and also he tried to rape my mother a few times when they were together.Sometimes I can really feel his blood pumping through my veins. I'm not saying I'm going to commit paedophilia, I'm just saying I have some abnormalities that worry me, such as sexual addiction and a rape fetish. I want to do something about this but I'm worried about being judged and considered sick or something. I can't tell anyone because my family etc are sensitive about the subject because of my father, in fact writing this now is incredibly difficult. I know sexual addiction is quite common, but this seems different because it's something in my genes. What can I do?
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 I would stress that sexual additions are NOT one of those things that can be inherited from your father. However, having been raised in this environment may have exposed you to situations that might make it seem like you're following in his path. This is probably your fears and anxieties working overtime in an attempt to be sure that you don't follow in your father's footsteps. Being aware of your situation means that you are actively concerned and would likely not follow through in acting out any sexual aggressions. I would say that you have issues that you should try and work through with the guidance of a professional.
The last thought I had was just something for you to think about: sexual addiction is one thing, rape fantasies (or any sexually oriented fantasies) are a completely different thing. Having fantasies is not an indicator of anything other than an active sex-drive and imagination. But if your personal imagery is bothering you, please seek help from a professional that you can speak with interactively and get some professional feedback. Don't suffer through this alone when there's no need to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): you do need to see a sex therapist. your story is no different than that of other childern of pedophiles. i assure you that you do not have to end up like your father. my father in law is a pervert and i see many of his fathers ways in my husband. the way they both laugh, the way they say some words...but my husband is nothing like his father in other ways. he is not in any way a pervert. there is help for the asking, and you shouldnt be ashamed to seek for it. in fact it is a very brave thing to do and i commend you for it. it is a sign that you are NOT like your father. good luck, mal
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