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writes:So, I don't know what to do anymore regarding boys and such... I've been dating this one guy for a couple months now, and to be honest, he took it really fast. I don't really know why I didn't stop him and tell him to slow down. But he's been really getting on my nerves lately, and I just don't think I'm interested in him as a boyfriend anymore. The thing is, I'm not quite sure how to tell him this. He is totally and completely infatuated with me, for lack of a better term. He's tossed around the words, "forever," and "marriage," within the week of us admitting our feelings to each other. He thinks I'm "the one" that he's going to have for the rest of his life, and I don't really want that.And then, to make it worse, I think I'm starting to like his and my best friend. And my boyfriend is already jealous because I spend so much time with our best friend at rehearsal for the play after school. And I don't even know if my best friend likes me that way. My boyfriend thinks he does, along with my mom and step-dad, but I don't know for sure...Advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm just so afraid of what my boyfriend might do if I break up with him, because he's had suicidal thoughts in the past. I don't want him to hurt himself. It scares me a little... Thanks.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 March 2010):
First of all, you have to remember that any decision he makes after you split from him are his own decisions. This means that if you split, and he does something, it's not your fault. If your boyfriend isn't making you happy and is just getting on your nerves, which is sounds like he is, then it would be better for you to split up. You know in your heart that you don't want to be with him, so it's best to end it. Make it very short, and calm. Show no emotion at all. Explain to him calmly that it just isn't working out and that you think it's better to move on.
What he does, after that, is his own choice.
As for this best friend, be careful. If he is also your boyfriend's best friend, then it could get very messy. I would suggest that you spend time alone just focusing on yourself and what you want from life.
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