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41-50,
*orceedea
writes:Hey Dear Cupid,My concern is about the communication between my fiance and I. We seem to have our differences and not understand each other or see each other eye to eye at times. And our communication is off balance. I feel our minor differences now which make us become aggravated at each other can lead to us departing ways in the near future if we don't learn to fix it now that we have the chance. I see it as a minor argument. But he see's it as just a slight misunderstanding nothing big and the possibility of us departing ways cause it will get worse is unlikely. He doesn't see it as an argument since we don't yell at each others throats at all. But isn't it the same thing? There are different types of arguments aren't there? We've been together for 1 year now and not once have we yelled at each other but have gotten in a couple of minor misunderstandings that sometimes makes me feel terrible and question our future together. It's not a question of "Is he Mr. right?" or "Do I love him?" but more of "Will this get worse?" and "Will we end up splitting up?" as i fear. He say's to trust him and not to think that way. I once offered to find a marriage counselor to just to help us out and prevent anything like that from happening. But he thinks we don't need it. Am I being too paranoid? Of do I have a reason to feel and think the way I do? Please help, sometimes I feel bad and try to talk to him about it but like I said, our communication is just not in the right place at times for us to see each others eye.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Your right you need communication as a couple or things just dont work out or they get worse. You need to sit down with your partner and tell him the extent as to how much this is scaring you, he may not realise how bad you think it is. I think marriage counselling is the best route to go down. He may be a little reluctant at first but explain to him that its what you need to overcome your issues with communication as a couple. I hope use can overcome this and all the best with the future wedding. Am sure this can be resolved.
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