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writes:I am 19 yearsold and I have a 21 month old son and I am seriously worried over my son's safety when he is with my ex boyfriend. On tuesday after I picked up my son he was really upset, and cried the whole way home. When I went to bath him I noticed that there was a little streak of blood in his diaper his has happened on the last few times my ex had my son. When I looked at his bum it was red and sore looking. And he cried if I tried to get a better look and started saying "no, touch" . I don't know what to do, do I take him to the doctor and get him checked out? Do I call social services and get his visitation suspended? With out proof of anything want can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): take him to a doctor! you need to know why the blood is there dont you? you want to know if its a serious medical condition or abuse. dont delay this is your son and that blood should not be there! protect your child.
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reader, kukibuki  +, writes (9 October 2009):
I agree with all the answers to your question. Please provide us with an update asap. Im so sorry you are going through this. Be strong. Keep the child safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): Look into a Nanny cam and get your son to a doctor. He needs love and assurance that he's safe.
Photos, journal, buy a digital voice recorder and do what it takes.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (9 October 2009):
 You need to get your son medical help immediately, to determine if he is sick or if his father is abusing him. Like another aunt said, anal bleeding is not normal. If this abnormal bleeding always happens after he comes back from his ex, then it is possible that there is child abuse involved, you need to do whatever you have to do to get your child the help he needs so that this stops. Doctor, social services, etc. Ask them for help on what you can do to stop this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): Sometimes I don't understand human nature...if this was my son, I would want to protect him with my life, if necessary. Your child needs to see a doctor a.s.a.p., this is an emergency! What if his father isn't abusing him, then your child is possibly deathly ill, anal bleeding is not a normal thing!!!
If his father is truly abusing him, he needs to be put in jail where he can never touch another child again, including your own! No one should have an opportunity to abuse your child, ever, that is your responsibility to make sure it doesn't happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): i would head straight to the emergency room and get it started there... do not let him go back with his father until you have done that.. please get him checked right away.. don't wait another min. I am so sorry for what he is going through and what you are going through... if you wait then he has to suffer more.
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reader, greeneyes21 +, writes (9 October 2009):
I would first take him to the doctor, who then should be able to tell you the steps to take from there. I'm sure you plan on doing something, otherwise you wouldn't have posted this! Anyone who could hurt a child a sick human being.
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reader, raeblazing +, writes (9 October 2009):
If something is weird about your son's health...aka mysterious blood coming outing of his ass and his ass is hurting....a responsible mother takes her child to the doctor. Who knows what it could be. You must be responsible.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (9 October 2009):
 Take him to the doctor and let the doctor know what's going on. Let the doctor know of your concerns and from there the doctor can help you with contacting social services and getting the required proof.
I'm so sorry that you and your son are going through this. Please get help right away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): Hello, I am sorry that you and your son are going through this. I would definitely start with your family doctor and he/she can make any necessary referrals to professionals in your community that can help you in this situation.
I would also start documenting your observations in detail if you allow your son to continue to see his father. I am sure that your doctor will do a proper investigation and document your concerns as well.
Do your son a favour and do it ASAP.
Be well.
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