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writes:I'm starting to date a girl who I have been friends with for a while. I seem to click with her well and we have no problem talking to each and have good fun together.However I'm nearly 26, I have only slept with one girl when I was 20 and sex tbh was awful (I felt bad about i afterwards and I think that is the reason sh broke up with me) whilst my girlfriend told me one night she had slept with 7 men (she's 25).I'm worried that when we do sleep together, because it has been a long time, I won't be able to satisfy her and I'll be clumsy and she'll think differently about me. Although I know where evrything is and I'll be open to do anything sexually.Everything else seems great but its just sex that I'm worried about.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (26 July 2010):
 Just make sure you leave the lights pour her some wine if shes a little tipsy your clumsyness wont matter.. but really i think you should be up front with her so she wont expect to much
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reader, rivi +, writes (26 July 2010):
well it may well not be perfect first time but for heaven's sake just get on with it - get those pants off and get it inside her and ejaculate.
Take plenty of time with foreplay though.
I wouldn't bang on about how inexperienced / lacking in confidence you are -you'll just make it worse - building up an expectation of failure. Most women still expect the man to take the lead and be in charge of the sexual connection.
Act confident.
If you know when she is going to be receptive to sex then plan for it by abstaining from jerking off for 3 to 4 days prior. At least that should guarantee plenty of semen to keep her happy ( and lubricated). And your balls will be aching so there's less likelihood you'll go limp at the crucial moment.
Even if the first few times are awkward you need to get thru them to be able to relax into a good sexual routine as you learn what both of you like.
Make sure your ass is showered and squeaky clean !
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010): Relax… that is my advice… if you go into it worried about “messing up” its more likely that things won’t go as smoothly.
Don’t be afraid to ask what she wants you to do to her… she’ll tell you what she likes… communicating in the bedroom is an important thing, talk to one another, let her know what you enjoy and she’ll do the same. A “right there babe” or a moan speaks worlds when in bed…
And it’s important to remember that it’s okay to mess up… even in the bed room… if something goes wrong don’t feel bad about it, it happens to everyone… laugh it off, sex is supposed to be fun and a way for a couple to get to know one another better…
My other suggestion is talking to her about it… let her know you have only had one other partner and your concerns about having sex with her… she’ll understand =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010): Relax… that is my advice… if you go into it worried about “messing up” its more likely that things won’t go as smoothly. Don’t be afraid to ask what she wants you to do to her… she’ll tell you what she likes… communicating in the bedroom is an important thing, talk to one another, let her know what you enjoy and she’ll do the same. A “right there babe” or a moan speaks worlds when in bed… And it’s important to remember that it’s okay to mess up… even in the bed room… if something goes wrong don’t feel bad about it, it happens to everyone… laugh it off, sex is supposed to be fun and a way for a couple to get to know one another better…My other suggestion is talking to her about it… let her know you have only had one other partner and your concerns about having sex with her… she’ll understand =)
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (26 July 2010):
 sometimes sex is better if you care about the person, were all seven men exes she cared about? because there is a difference with making love and having sex.
you can also ask her what she likes.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 July 2010):
 Rather than calling yourself a clumsy lover, how about a sensual lover? Imagine you are an experienced lover pretending to do everything as the first time. Pretend that her 7 guys didn't know what they were doing. Take everything slow. Have a lot of eye contact. Tell her she's a pretty girl. When you kiss her, say, "Oh, it's electrical." Undress her slowly. Comment on her tits and just gently kiss them. Move your eyes down to her clit and lips and touch them. As long as you are not asking "Am I doing it right" all the time it should be fine. Keep the foreplay as long as possible until she got a little impatient. When you are about to cum tell her to stop and change positions.
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