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41-50,
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writes:I had a boyfriend who I loved so much, he was honestly the love of my life. I was with him for five years and he was so sweet and very caring I just loved him so much. I choice to give him my virginity and I was very happy with him. I dream of having children with him, we moved in together. He had one major flaw he was very very jelouse and possessive towards me. This was a major issue because he would get mad on how I dressed and who I hanged around with. But he had other great qualities that I would overlook this till the day that even my sisters wouldn't be allowed to be around me because he would get mad. I made it a point to tell him that he would lose me if he try to keep me from my family. He argued every time i talked to them that I couldn't handle this anymore that I broke it off. I loved him so much but decided this was the best thing for Me. Sometimes just cause you love someone doesn't mean you belong together, my problem is that I have been with other men but my heart has not felt the same. I'm dating this wonderful person that makes me happy but I'm always thinking on my ex. He knows who my heart belong too but he continues to be there very nice and supportive. My ex has tried multiple times to get back into my life says he has change that he learned his lesson but I know I don't want to be with him I don't want to live a life where I feel trap. Even if I still love him I will not go back but how can I open my heart to love someone with the same magnitude the same passion that I loved him. The guy I'm dating deserves so much more. I love him and don't want to compare them but how can I stop?
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reader, raiders +, writes (4 May 2013):
 You need to give yourself time to heal from the break up. Your right we can love someone and know that we are not meant for each other and do the best next thing which is to break up. I am sorry you are going through this but just know that with time you will be able to move on. Maybe its to soon for you to date. Not sure how long have you guys been apart since you didn't write it on your post. But please understand that if you broke up with your ex is for a reason and please don't consider going back to him. Regarding your new guy you don't want to string him along if your not sure where your heart is at this is not fair to him.
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