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writes:well, its kind of a long story. but short version.i was dating this guy for a year and i had been flirting throughout the whole relationship and not being such a good gf but i never cheated, at least not physically. i just flirted a lot and well eventually he and i moved in together and after a month or two it was like we were just room mates. well eventually i started talking to this guy and in my book that is cheating, even though i didnt sleep or kiss him. but i was talking to him more then a friend. My bf and i broke up and i slept with the other guy. well eventually my ex and i got back together and i should have told him but didnt and still talked to the other guy.. long story short my ex found everything out, and we were done. I tried to fix it all and be perfect and do all these things that he asked. and he said i wasnt trying and i found out that at one point even though he said we were going to fix us he was sleeping with someone and says he didnt do anything wrong. well he left, and then i came back an i tried, i had all these rules to follow and be a certain way, but in his eyes i wasnt trying an maybe i wasnt but he said he was done and he left. then three days later he text me.. im soo confused. i dont know if i should keep trying to get him or just try an not think of him like that any more. because i screwed up. but yet i was willing to let him go, to make him happy.. so some one please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): From the sounds of things, I think you might not be ready for a serious relationship with anyone. Neither one of you seem to be able to commit, the breaking things off to sleep with someone else, the flirting and talking with others is a clear indication you are just enjoying being single.
Carry on, don't be dependent on this one person as your safety net. You don't know who you are yet or what you want out of a partnership. Word of advice, do not move in with a guy you are just dating unless at the very least marriage is on the table. Moving in with someone before a commitment will never work, both people feel trapped and a bit overwhelmed and that kills passion and distance begins....so keep your own residence as long as you can if you want your relationship to last.
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