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writes:ok so i just got surgery sept and my doctor has always been hot i've know him for 2 years now and now it seems like he likes me he kept telling me i looked and i just smiled so hard we talk about other things besides my health. i feel a strong connection,now mind you we are both married with children,he always tell me to come in for anything...lol if he only knew but he is all i can thnk about and when he touches me it sends chills up my spine and i know he knows what do i do?i'm down if he is but how will i find out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2011): You honestly think you are the victim? That you even say that totally supports what Miame called you on.
I think you, yourself may have some narcissitc traits to the degree you can be deemed dellusional.
Its so funny how you turned it around to make it seem like you are innocent but you are not. You first owned up to having the hots and even declared you always found him hot which means you entertained thoughts and fantasies of the Doc but now are taking those thoughts/fantasies and trying to enforce them into reality regardless there are families and other peoples lives and feelings at stake.
We on the other side can see through the BS.
I doubt he is trying to seduce you.
If you want a divorce, you would up and leave the husband and get one. You are NO VICTIM.
Just an angry woman with lustful loins for A Doctor doing his job but you misconstrue his profession to be 'friendly' and ask how are you? How do you feel as him coming on to you?
Yes, that sounds delusional to me.
I say, seek therapy to gain back healthy perspective and to get you out of victim mode and into proactive, kick ass woman mode ASAP.
Then you will be healthier and make healthier, wiser decisions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2011): actually u r the deluded one not me .Why would i persue a married man especially a doctor purposely ,You're taken everthing out of context by calling me names i didn't come here for abuse ,i came for advice and by u snapping out on me isn't going to help me with any choice making at all ,you saying the poor doctor this and that but you don't know how torn I'm i ask my husband for a divorce and he won't comply with it ,so now i feel like i'm stuck in this situation i definently want to be in .I'm the victim in this horrible situation so it's ok for someone to try to seduce me and when i catch feelings i'm a bad girl No Honey I'm Human.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (15 November 2011):
 Another thing.... HOW THE HELL CAN YOU ENJOY YOUR DOCTORS COMPANY. You don't know him, your not around him long enough to be friends. Your at the doctors because you are sick, and I'm sure you don't have more than a couple of minutes to talk to him. Lady you are deluded. He is just doing what doctors to. My doctors talks about other things not just my health. THAT'S WHAT DOCTORS DO. It's to find out if you have other problems and issues that you want to discuss. He asks about my mother and my family, not because he likes me, but to find out if I might be at risk of depression. Doctors ask you to come back anytime, because they hate when patients wait and hide their sickness, it's their way of saying, they care about your HEALTH. Your going to embarrass yourself very badly if you do anything sexual or make moves on your doctor. Remember your doctor can have you committed to a mental hospital, and he may just do that if finds your behavior sexually provocative and inappropriate, because these are signs of mental problems. You could be classed out of control and a danger to yourself. My friend was like that, he kept making sexual propositions to everyone, it was inappropriate. They locked him up in hospital and now he has to have injections for the rest of his life. Be very, very careful, you doctor isn't your friend or lover, he is a very powerful man.
Go and sort out your problems with your husband, or a counselor before things get out of your control.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (15 November 2011):
You are not a nice person. You are going out of your way to try to persuade your doctor to have sex with you. You don't care about his wife or family, all you care about is you. So what the doctor flirted with you, there is nothing wrong in that. But have come here to get some advice on how to seduce the poor man. Flirting isn't adultery, it's not flirting that causes divorce. Because you are horny, your willing to hurt a lot of people, including your children. Why don't you just get a vibrator if your so desperate for sex. Why don't you go and sort out your marriage instead of panting after unavailable men. Yes, your doctor may be sexy, but "come for anything" doesn't sound to me like the dying to see your naked body. Why should he, he's a doctor, he can see naked bodies all day.
Sigh. He can't sleep with you, it's against the medical code. He will loose his job, and he'd be a fool to risk anything with such a selfish person like you. Your not even in love, your just looking for sex. Why don't you go to a bar and pick up a single man for a quickie one night stand.
Be careful. You sound desperate and neurotic, and doctors who have sexually aggressive women on their books, often refuse to see them. I would hate for you to be unable to get medical care because your doctor is too frightened to see you. Don't you have any morals, don't you care about other people at all. Did you have a bad childhood or something, are you suffering from some type of mental illness. Your husband kisses someone, now you want to hurt everyone around you, including your children, and the doctors innocent wife and kids. That really is low.
Leave the poor man alone. Go and sleep with your husband, go and buy yourself some sex toys, or get a divorce and then you'll be able to sleep with all the men you want. Go to counselling, go and fix your marriage. Just please leave the married guys alone. You sound so selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2011): Doctors who get sexually involved with their patients are seriously troubled or narcissistic and often malignant people.
Why?
Because it is illegal, as far as I know, in all 50 states.
It is considered extremely unethical in all 50 states.
Usually you are forced into psychiatric counseling when you are caught, and you are forever a blackmail victim waiting to happen until you are caught.
So, you have to be rather crazy to do it.
But female patients are often attracted to male doctors even if they are total assholes....prestige, money, power, intellect, etc...
But a smart, prestigious, rich, intellectual asshole is still just produces a shirt for a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2011): So it's not okay for me to cheat but it's okay for him to ,it's just that whenever i'm around him i feel he tells me things and i enjoy his company,maybe that he is fine as hell but so is my husband im attractted to his personality the way he looks at me his cologne i could write a list ,no i don't want to ruin anyones family .That's y i wrote because i don't want to do something i'll regret but i can't help but think about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Daniel honestly i asked for seperation after i caught my husband kissing another female this summer but he said it was him ...that's neither here or there this was before then do u think my feelings from the other incident are pushing me to get revenge i've never been a vengeful person so i never thought it woulld be .It almost seemed like he was upset when my husband tagged along for a visit.I'm soo confused could u offer more advice on my situation please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i just think that he started flirting with me and now i'm attracted even more so its not fair for me to feel bad because he has a family he should've thought about them first right.I feel guilty yes but thats why i wrote i just donnt know what to do leave it alone or follow through its hard for me because i have to see him still
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (14 November 2011):
 Well first of all, I'm not going to give you the best suggestions on how you can cheat with your doctor. And I don't think any other relationship advisor on here will either.
What I will say is that if you really do value your relationship with your husband, your family life with him and your kids, then it's best for you to be focus on them- and perhaps find a new doctor. One that may be just as good medically- but you're not attracted to.
This guy may send exciting chills up your spine when he touches or sees you, but you're playing with fire. And if you keep at it, you may do something you may later regret. Not to mention potentially causing problems in his marriage/family life. So don't give in to this temptation. Think wisely and carefully about the decisions that you would make.
And just know, affairs are never the solution. If you rather be with other men, then maybe you need to be separated from your husband. If not, then focus on making your current relationship stronger to the point where you wouldn't be so open to having affairs with other men- or have a need for it. Because you get all the love, affection, and attention from your husband.
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