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writes:why do the guys dont tell to their gf, if they dont want to be with them? instead of doing this, they do not text to their gf..Here is my situation, me and my bf start not to text to each other and he texted to me today asking me, if we still couples or not... and I told him yeah... then told him to put more effort in this relationship he told me that : I know, ur right... so if he dont make this relationship, why wouldnt he end it? I dont wanna end it cause Iam not ready I want him to end it... he doesnt even come to see me...when I asked him to hang out, everythime something came up thats why he didint come..any opinions?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 April 2010):
 Men very often use this passive- aggressive technique. Because they don't want to hurt your feelings, because they don't want to look like the "bad guy " ,because they are terrified by the perspective of tears,scenes and accusation, or more simply because they want to eat their cake and keep it too. So often they just keep slowly inching away from you in the vague hope that eventually you'll get the hint and take the initiative of breaking up .
I am not saying this is precisely your situation, after all he took the trouble of texting you and asking you what's wrong.
But if you feel he's not putting any effort to make your relationship work,- and he knows but that still nothing changes,- you have to ask yourself if you really want to be the only one who takes all the responsibility to keep it going.
Right now you are not ready to end it - but it sounds improbable he will. Why should he ? He likes things to be the way they are now and it may drag this on indefinitely.
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