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writes:Several months ago my boyfriend left a long and abusive marriage to move from the USA to be with me. We met up last summer and although I had a boyfriend, we emailed and gave up our relationships to be together.His wife, who is much more beautiful than me is now coming over to see to some admin affairs and wants to meet with him to get him to sign some documents. There is no need to meet, she just needs to mail them and he needs to sign in the presence of a solicitor. He has not said what he will do. When he went back last time she enticed him to sleep with her and told him it would be the last time. I had taken that on board because it took me some time to end things with my boyfriend anyway. By the way, they had no sex life for many years of their marriage and she was very unkind to him. She used the sex as a weapon. Everyone is charmed by her and even my own brother has told me that she is better looking than me, bless him. I don't think she has acceoted that she has no power over him any more and I am worried that she still does. I know that he adores me though, he came all this way to be with me after all. He is wonderful with me.I know she has dieted, had her teeth done and I think she wants to present herself to him as some power thing. I feel I must let them meet for closure but I feel very insecure and worried about it. Help?
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reader, BuBbY +, writes (24 July 2006):
 You made a very accurate comment about him moving over to be with YOU! Have you had a chat with your partner about this? Have you been honest and told him your concerns? Approached in a calm way i would like to think he would understand your concern seeing as you mentioned her past history of power trips and emotional abuse. His ex could possibly have a motive though i would like to think that with your partner making the sacrifice to be with you that his only reason for meeting could be for some closure. Afterall he is with you, you obviously treat him the way he deserves and it sounds as if you trust him.Do not let others make you feel bad because they say she is prettier. As always said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, your partner is with you because he thinks you are beautiful, he isnt with her! The people telling you this are superficial, so what if she has nice teeth and has lost some weight. You are probably much more beautiful in your individual ways and a million more times beautiful as a person within. Keep in mind she treated him badly, you havent and he is with YOU!Good luck, i hope it is the last time you are needing to deal with his ex in your life and that you have an amazing relationship x
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reader, singlemomof1 +, writes (24 July 2006):
 You need to sit the boy down and tell him how you feel and that you would rather he not meet her or if he does maybe you should be there. Remember doll you have him now, so he does find you attractive. Just because someone has beauty on the outside they can still be ugly on the inside.
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