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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I always wanted to meet a normal bloke settle down have kids well i got married but i cant say hes normal when i have had little digs said to me, i had my children who are all now 18 and over and i hate my life because i hate my husband and cant see a way out. I dont bother with my family and have no one to turn to so feel so alone and trapped. Ive cheated on my husband many times and i know he as cheated on me thou he denies it. I long to leave this boring lonely sad life i lead and also to leave him because he is like my father who i despise with all my heart. My father came out with cruel things towards me and my husband as come out with cruel things towards me as well. I want a better life for myself one where i wake up and not have to worry if im getting cheated on again and i know deep down i need to leave him and i want to because this isnt away to live and its not nice having that doubt at the back of your mind everyday. I cheated years ago because he was looking at porn went on dating sites which he denies and my confidence was so knocked that i needed another man to show me i was attractive, he even said he was fascinated by one of the porn stars bodies so that really hurt me and i had to prove to myself i had something nice about me. Xmas 2014 should of been two perfumes in the bag, one for me and one for our daughter, only one was in the bag but the receipt showed two, told husband about it and he said must of not put it in the bag. He went down stairs came back up and he went in the bag and got it out, i know he bought it up so i know he was keeping it for another woman who i think he works with because i was once in the car with him and im convinced i heard her say, don't forget to get me a present but he said she said, dont forget to get your wife a present. Why the hell would she say that and as if he would forget anyway. I have many times thought of calling this woman up and finding out if she is cheating with my husband but i feel she will lie and i suppose i dont want to jeopartize his job if his boss finds out. He said she is married but dont know if hes just lying about that. she will probably deny it anyway if she is cheating with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2016): I am the woman who posted the topic. Yes i am unhappy and i really need to change my life. I think im unhappy because i carry alot of anger towards my husband because he has hurt me so much when he has come out with cruel words, lying to me and probably cheated and i try and put it all at the back of my mind but it then all comes back. i want to know if you can leave things that have happened in the past and still be happy or is it always there no matter what.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 February 2016):
 What is keeping you from leaving? File for divorce and go free. It seems like you are very unhappy so take whats making you unhappy and leave it in your past. Stop blaming your husband for you cheating, you need to own up to your own mistakes, nobody forces us to cheat. You have done wrong, and no its not his fault you cheated, you are unhappy with him so please just see a lawyer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2016): We live only once and we shouldn't live it in misery. You are mature enough to know what you are doing and it seems their is nothing to keep you in this marriage.Your kids are grown up. I say reach an amicable decision with your husband to get divorce. I am sure under the circumstances you mentioned he will welcome it too.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (16 February 2016):
 There sounds like there is a lot of hurt and lack of trust in your marriage, and it has reached a point where there is nothing left to salvage.
I would suggest a couple of things, firstly get yourself into counselling which will help with the feelings of anger and disappointment you are feeling, and to help you when cope. Secondly, go see your Dr as it sounds like you are in need of some anti-depressants for a short while.
Thirdly, go see an Attorney to find out where you stand financially should you go through with a divorce.
You should also look for employment if you are not already working. If you do divorce you need to be able to fend for yourself, as you will no longer have your husbands wages to depend upon.
Honeygirl
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