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writes:I started a new job about 2 years ago in a building where it consists of about 40 guys mostly around my age and a couple of older women. it was very daunting working with all guys and it took over a year before any of them really spoke to me properly. now they've gotten to know me we all get on well and they laugh and joke with me and treat me as one of the lads. I started seeing one of them about 6 months ago but we never told anyone because we weren't sure where the relationship was heading. However we've started to get serious and he mentioned to me the other day about "coming out at work" but im not so sure. Dating in our workplace is allowed and I only see my bf in passing maybe once or twice a month as he is out driving a lot so thats not the issue. My concern is that im worried that once all the guys find out they will act differently around me and will feel like they cant joke with me because im going out with their work mate. Is this totally selfish of me? I hated my job when they all treated me differently but I like work now im seen as "one of them", its taken 18 months for them to accept me like that and I enjoy socialising with them but im worried this will change if they find out.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): Don't be afraid to show of your relationship you can let them know but also let them know you guys can still be friends and be normal like it's been that your friendships don't have to change just because your in a relationship!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): I would keep it quiet a little longer and if anyone asks questions just tell them you like to keep work and your private life separate. Explain to your BF - that you just don't want interference from the men and always acknowledge him and treat him really well when your paths cross at work. He might push that he wants people to know, but I have worked in male environments and just tell him the least they know about you the better. When the relationship stronger be the time to shout it from the roof tops! x
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