A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:It seems like a life time ago but it was merely two years when I fell in love for the first time with my dream boy (Boy N), however when my best friend turned on me and told him I didn’t run away I started to talk to him. He showed little interest but that didn’t stop me I finally gave it up as a lost cause at prom (4 months ago), I still hurt thinking about him and sometimes I get so angry I blame him for me liking him for so long because when my friends asked him what he thought of me all he would say was “I guess I could like her but I don’t really know her that well” then refuse to get to know me know matter how much I tried. He hurt me by more than ever just pushing me away rather than saying “I don’t like you”Anyway in the present for the last 4 months I’ve been getting phone calls from an unknown number, I know it’s a boy but the lines always bad, I always catch certain sentences though so I have a hunch who it is and I think (though) it was the best friend of Boy N (Boy L) I know now because all he does is facebook me and talk to me in collage, it was the same way I used to act around Boy N (now I know how he feels, getting pestered all the time by a someone you hardly know is hardly a turn on). I know that Boy L likes be because his other best friend (Boy A) told one of my friends (not knowing she was friends with me). The only problem is I like Boy A and think that we could hit it off but his sweet and kind and I can’t see him going out with me unless Boy L stops liking me very abruptly. Even then though Boy A is also best friends with Boy N and I could image all the things going through Boy L’s mind if I asked him out “she’s using me to get to Boy N” or “oh so now she likes the Best friend of Boy N”.I’ve never been in a scrape worse than this and any way I picture getting out of it someone get’s hurt (mostly me). And all the snide remarks come from Boy N laughing and gearing (and he is like that). I need a way out with out the last strands of my heart braking ideally with Boy A but at the same time I want Boy N out of my life and I know that can never happen if I’m dating Boy A. Help!!!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (28 October 2010):
 Easy. Just forget about all of them. Tell Boy L that you are not interested (remember how you wished Boy N told you how he felt - you should do the same for Boy L to save him any further hurt) and that you want him to stop calling you and talking to you on Facebook all the time because it is bothering you. Thats Boy L dealt with.
You dont have a chance with Boy A - his best friend likes you therefore you are a no-go zone, plus you were massively obsessed with his other best friend so he will think if you tell him you like him that he is either 2nd best to Boy N, or that you are just working your way around his group of friends! So forget about him too, it will never happen.
As for Boy N - if you distance yourself from him and his group of friends then he should stop with all the comments. You clearly are not fully over him as you still hurt thinking about him, so to date any other guy would not be fair on that guy because there are still some feelings left over from another guy.
So really the only way out of this is to forget about them all, there are plenty of other guys out there and these 3 are just too complicated! Give yourself a bit more time to get over Boy N and then find yourself a guy who is not friends with any of them!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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