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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey everybody I need some help.Me and my now ex had been together for almost two years. And recently we had been on and off. I hadn't been happy with him for awhile, at the beginning he used to make me feel special, listened to, and wanted.And now the spark has died, sex is just him rolling on top of me until he's done, no build up or anything. I'm too young to be in a relationship with no spark!Every time I break up with him, I always think of the good memories, and I miss him, and I can't stop thinking of him and always end up going back. I don't want to do this anymore. A lot of the time I feel like I won't want anybody else, and am scared of leaving. Or No one else will find me attractive. And he's basically my best friend, and without him I don't really have any one else. But I don't really want to be with him, I feel like he doesn't listen to me when I have a problem, I had been begging him for months to at least flirt with me. It never happend.A big part of me is scared I won't find anybody else. I don't know. Help, I don't want to end up going back. Another big part, is my parents never really knew we were together, so they'd start asking questions if we stopped hanging out, because they think we're just friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): Trust your instincts: you're right. You ARE way too young to be in a lifeless relationship. You have many, many years of fun and exciting new people to meet. All relationships have their arc. It sounds like this one has run its course. Tell him you still care deeply about him, but it's over. You cannot live your life for someone else, or you will die inside. Be real to him, he deserves it if he's truly your best friend. And so do you. Good luck.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (11 April 2011):
Well. You can't stay into a relationship because you are afraid. Which is basically what you are doing right now. You have to break up and start dating someone else. You will find other boys interested in you, of course.
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