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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:So I've been hanging out with this girl that I really like. However, when I'm with her I just don't feel "it". She's really awesome and I actually do have feelings for her. It's just that it seems like she is a better friend then a girlfriend. But there really isn't anything going on between us. It's just that I was with her the other day and then it hit me. I want a girlfriend but I don't want her. I'm not good with women...at all. I manage to talk to a few but I'm too shy and I don't have the balls to get up and go talk to someone I find attractive. The thing that bothers me is that I know what I want in a girl and I don't want to just be with someone because I can't overcome my fear of rejection. I know I have to have confidence and "just talk to her". But I already know that. I have no idea what to say or do after I go up to her. I don't even know where to meet women. All the women I know (which is less then the number of fingers on my hand) I met randomly. So randomly in fact I can't figure out what I did to meet them. I know I can be a good boyfriend. I'm a great friend to my friend. So what you think? Please say more than I need confidence.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (17 December 2009):
 ask people you kno how they met there gf or bf, The opportunity comes up alot to meet someone you just have to take advantage of the situation, for example you go to the store theres a really cute cashier start a conversation with her and get her number it should take you 30 sec max, Hi how are you etc usually they have a name badge so you can say thats a pretty name tell her your name then ask if you can get her number with your receipt if she gives it to you ask her whats a good time to call. wait two days then call have something planned to do call her and talk and tell her oyu want to get to kno her better and you can take her to nice restaurant someplace with swag. any way i would sugest practicing your game on girls you dont really like and rejections kool its apart of the game you gotta have a few fumbles before you touch down. keep your eyes open
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