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writes:I'm too shy around a guy I like.I see him all the time, and usually when I do we're amongst a group of mutual friends... they'll talk with one another about general things. I do make contributions to the discussion but because i'm shy around him, I tend to talk to everyone within the group and not directly to him. I want to spend more time with him, I want to get to know him. But I can't bring myself to even talk to him! I even go out of my way to walk past him but then ignore him, for example, if i see him walking towards my direction I just pretend i'm texting or haven't noticed him and walk straight past! I really kick myself for it because it's not going to get me anywhere. We used to be really close when i was in his lesson last year but since, we have drifted apart so much and i want to fix that! When we're alone he gets nervous around me, he is such a confident person but with me he acts differently. I'm not sure whether to take this as a hint that he doesn't like my presence? It makes me feel uneasy around him. There is such a tense atmosphere when we're talking (alone) we just end up looking around and avoiding all eye contact with each other either that or end up on our phones pretending to text someone! We do have some positive connections though, if we talk online (as rarely as that is!) we are very communicative with one another, some of or conversations have gone on for ages. Then if we've been at a party and we're drunk, we'll act like really close friends; hugging each other, talking comfortably and there are no nerves whatsoever. Talking to him when i'm drunk is like talking to my best friend! Such a comfortable atmosphere, it's amazing. Can you please help me on this? I want us to become close again.
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reader, AntPain +, writes (17 November 2009):
It depends on a few things.Firstly, this guy probably knows you like him if he goes quiet when its more private and probably likes you back if he does that.If you can pluck up the smallest bit of courage to just steer the convosation into relationship or something then maybe -if he is confident - will get the message properly :)Hope this helps a bit lol
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