A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I first met this woman through a close relative, we started talking over the net and then met up a few times for a couple of drinks. We've been getting to know each other for a couple of months now, she's not quite ready for a relationship yet because a. she would be more comfertable next month when I turn 16 and b.she has told me that she is still inlove with her ex girlfriend. You probably think im mad for staying with her after she announced that but she has sworn to me that she cant and doesnt want to be with her because she refuses to be hurt or put through the humiliation again.We are very open and comfertable around each other, when we are together we do the usual things couples would do like holding hands, kissing and other displays of intimacy etc etc...But our phonecalls sometimes can be something else. I tend to speak a load of crap when I am lost for words or have nothing to say which ends up in her misunderstanding me and us putting down the phone pissed off. I'm also very sweet and kind with her, a little too nice at times and I just want her to know that I'm not one to be walked all over. How can I get my message across without sounding rude or bitchy?I'm too scared to say anything or stand up to her because I don't want to lose her.
View related questions:
ex girlfriend, her ex, kissing, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, miss know it all +, writes (10 September 2008):
but you will have to say something because you cant stay in a relationship while you feel like this you will have to talk to her and just explain how you feel. It sounds like shes a very impatient person and doesent like it when anybody else puts there point across. Because you are being so nice with her and dont like getting into confrontations with her she thinks she can walk all over you and treat you any way she wants cos she knows you wont say anything, so its about time you start putting your point across and putting your foot down and telling her not to speak to you the way she is and that might help her calm down becaue she will then realise how shes treating you and wont wantto lose you. good luck
|
