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female
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30-35,
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writes:at nights is the hardest n im tired of cryin. there is this guy im in love with. he liked mi first but when he liked me i didnt return the feelings then when i liked him i jus didnt wanna date him. but we admitted to liking each other. ive seen him go on dates with other girls and each time a hole formed in my heart but never said anything to him about it knowing it wouldnt last. but after they go thru wateva he always falls right back to me flirting wanna to hold my hand i jus figure its cuz wen he is single n has nothin to do he bothers me. but then again he liked me since 2008 i jus dont know.n im sure a relationship would not last hes sexually active and i wanna stay a virgin until my wedding night and i dont knoe of he would pressure me but he is a 21 year old guy n the way he goes thru girls i think he thinks with his hormones most of the time. im jus so tired of crying over him. what should i do?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 February 2010):
 You fell in love with a player. Players are charming. Honestly, a guy who says he wants to wait till marriage for sex is either too timid, or fake. I am not attracted to guys who say this at all. You are fighting with your mind and body. A more mature guy would understand your concern but is going to want the same thing. Waiting for sex is mostly about fear and you can't love totally with fear. When you carry fear in you, you attract guys who reinforce that fear. You falling in love has also to do with hormones. It's not healthy creating a division in you which says: my body tells me sex feels good but my mind says I have to wait, because traditions says so and I don't want to get hurt. Stick to your guns if you have to but realize what you are doing to yourself. Anyways he's not yours to keep.
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