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writes: I have been married for almost three years now and I am not attracted to my husband like I used to be. It's not because of his looks, it's the fact that he has become so lazy. I have to constintly clean up after him and nag him to get anything done. For example,he just got a new puppy but I am the one who has to train it because he is too busy watching t.v or playing video games. It has gotten ridiculous and I have told him all of this before and he will shape up for a few days after we talk, but then he goes right back to his lazy self. Sometimes I think I would be happier on my own. I didn't marry him to be his maid and mother... should I even stay in this marriage?
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reader, Ms Mebaby +, writes (18 December 2005):
Kick his lazy arse (and his dog) out to the curb next garbage day. Nothing's going to change... you've already tried to talk to him. He obviously needs to see some real action on your part. The longer you keep picking up after him the bigger a pig he's going to turn into.
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reader, Ellen +, writes (18 December 2005):
personally, i would throw the tv out-or make it look like you did. that will get his attention.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (18 December 2005):
 Dear, there are alot of hubby like that am afraid. you are not entirely alone on this i have alot of friends that are in the same position as u.
You just have to get him involve in the housework. Put your foot down and tell him how u feel. I know u must have told him that he needs to help but have u told him how much difficult the burden is for you to bear. maybe u should try doing that. let him know he is straining u. Tell him in the utmost respectful and calm way to let him know u r serious.
If he has tried to change means he wants to but,is just that he is used to lazing around and wont be easy for him to do. u have to guide him. be patient with him. praise him in a subtle way when he lends a helping hand to encourage him.
I believe u still want things to work with u too and that is why u have reached out for help. I know u feel u r not attracted as u used to be, but its just that u r angry with things.
take care dear and i wish u the best.
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