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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi, wonder if you can offer a few words.I have been seeing my girlfriend now for some 4years and plan to move in together, maybe next year sometime but the problem I have is that she wants to get married, this I have not dismissed but I do not see the point, a bit of paper saying that we are married is not an indication of commitment to me, after all, getting a divorce isn't really that hard.Recently, she has been talking of getting engaged, she feels it's a sign of commitment from me but.., I just don't see it, I really feel it kind of pointless.Another thing on my mind is that when we met, she was at uni studying for a good career,I was proud, not so long ago she dropped out, she now suffers from depression and is on prescribed happy pills as I call them, on top of that, her 6 year old son is a pain in the neck, misbehaved, rude, no respect. I love the girl so very much but all I can see is a degradation in future relations. I don't know if I'm looking too far into the future looking for problems that may not occur or what but I have no idea what to do. I'm kind of in the feeling of walking and calling it a day, the problem is that I love her and her son but Im not sure the love I have is enough..One confused chap.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): Well if doesn't mean anything just do it anyway to keep her happy :-)
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (31 October 2007):
 Well ... you have to ask yourself "How much do you really love this girl" ... do you wana loose her - or do you wana keep her and make her happy??
The way you talk about her, I think you really love her, you are just confused cause she is acting wierd. Do something for her, thats going to show her that you really mean well ... and that you are serious w her. I am not saying you have to get married .. but moove in and than think about engagement.
You should just talk to her about it and tell her streight how you feel ..and that you need more time ...
The guestion is - Do you wana ever marry her?
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