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writes:Hi - have been seeing a guy for about 3 weeks now and its going really well. Its getting to the point where Im thinking of maybe going a bit further than kissing wih him. I'm not a virgin but we're taking things slow. Thing is, he's going away for 2 weeks to visit his family who live in Wales and I wanted to know I can maybe keep the spark there until he gets back. Was thinking of maybe sending dirty phone pictures. Or buyig sexy underwear for when he gets back and telling him about it. Any other ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): You have nothing to prove so relax. How exhausting it would be to keep this up for years, never mind weeks. Don't give yourself sexually to keep him because it won't work. If your sex life has been going nice and slow don't ruin the anticipation by rushing just as he is going away. If the guy adores you, which is what should be if you are going to go further, you have no need to rush. Remember to be loved for who you are, not because you have to conform and perform like a sex machine. Sending pictures of yourself which may get sent on elsewhere? Oh no, surely not.
Quick reality check. Do you want to know he loves you have a secure relationship before making this move? That is what will make it last. Think about another time in history, not so long ago before brash sex was about. Before the times when young women felt they had to compete with porn stars. Would your Mum send your Dad things like that? People in times past managed to really appreciate each other and feel lucky to love someone so much. Rose tinted specs maybe, but I don't think you should worry. If it is meant to last it will do, let the sexy times happen when they do and when they feel right, not when you feel under pressure to hang on to him. No-one stays around because of those sorts of games. It is much more about having a laugh and connecting in the brain that what colour underwear you send. Good luck!
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